hey guys i havnt posted in awhile but i was just wondering if i cant get some advice well the situation is me and this girl have been friends for ever since middle school and within these past couple of months we've gotten really close and are always constantly touching and shit just massive amounts of kino but im not sure if i should go for it or just be friends because this is what she wrote in one of her blogs about me

ahh.. where the fuck do i START? damn. for a boy, your the bestest friend i could ever ask for. you give me great advice when i need it. i never EVER want to loose you as a friend. i think we met in middle school, you were one grade above me. we had biology together freshman year, soph year algebra 3/4 and so on. and it was alot of fun. well all throughout highschool, we have talked almost every single day and you always cheer me up or put a smile on my face. you have seen me shed tears over boys, and drink till i puke. your a great person, and i know deep down you REALLY truley do care about girls, when sometimes you say you don't at all. i sometimes do think your personality would makes us great if we dated, but i am just scared. i am scared to loose the great friendship we have. i am not sure if you like me more than a friend, but i guess we will let that remain a mystery. your a amazing person, and thank you for being in my life

so help decifering this would be muched appreciated

ok this is a level in the LJBF zone most guys wish they could reach. the fact that she's even considering you as a sexual partner is a BIG plus. if i were you, acknowledge that blog post as soon as you can and discuss the possibility of it. if not that, you should also try running the kiss test after a long night of you two hanging out and having fun. keep up with the kino!

Typical. Such a typical situation.

She says she's scared to lose you as a friend... what this means could either be exactly that, or that she's just plain not interested in dating you and wants to keep you around for emotional support which she can easily get from her girly friends. The latter seems less likely because she has shown interest in you as a partner though, so all you need to do is make it happen. Just stop pretending for her sake that things are fine the way they are and make the move because she is obviously far too scared to make the decision for herself... guys in your position typically share this anxiety and for fear of looking too pushy they want to give her space, they say it's fine and that they can wait. Don't fucking do this because you've waited far too long as it is and the longer you allow it to continue the harder it is gonna be to push things forward. If you don't man up and tell her you're going to date and that's final, you are gonna be stuck pretending like you're content just being friends forever. Girls have what we like to call "make up my mind for me syndrome", and as the name suggests, that's exactly what you have to do.

You have 2 choices: man up, make the decision and date her - or get rid of her. I don't wanna hear any of this "I can't" bullshit or any of the reasons you have for why you can't lose her as a friend cos that's what every other average guy who is scared to make decisions for himself says and I'm not interested... and neither should you be. In short, tell her you wanna date her and that's final. If that's really not what she wants, she had better start setting you up with her equally hot friends otherwise she is of no real use to you. You're not gonna settle for being just friends if that's not what you really want, so stop pretending like it is and fucking take a dive.

all true, gotta dive dude. Keep up the kino. if you REALLY cant get a date, try to kiss. there'S a lot of good methods in this forum, search for some. a kiss will show her you're the man for her

You are too late. I already had her . Seriously, she doesn't want you in the way you want her. I would suspect that you are just too young for her. She views you as just another peer. A girl with a wee-wee. Kinda like an emo guy. You are not stimulating. You are not interesting. She has known you since you were picking and eating your nose treasure. Not exactly something girls dream about in their sleep.

Solution: Best thing to do is to date below your peer group. Girls get turned on by power and status. Trust me, a girl should NEVER be your "friend". Have more respect for yourself than that. If I find that I am not stimulating to a girl I don't waste my time on her. If I want a friend I will buy myself a dog.

She's obviously either attracted to him or want to mess with his head... Otherwise she wouldn't have made the effort to post that. You don't do something like that just to state the obvious. And... unless he's read her completely wrong and their whole friendship is a sham the second thing is pretty damn unlikely. Either way I'd say he goes for it. Unless he's too scared of losing her as a friend. Some guys actually want human friends you know

Don't date below your peer group? What kind of thinking is that? If you place a girl's status above your own, you will never succeed. Period. That is AFC thinking. Of course status and power can help.. but ultimately it's the force of your whole person/personality (and how you present it) that matters! That's what PUA is about!

Yep, I'm going to reinforce the 'take the plunge' ideal here. It has progressed for far too long and she needs to know that. Just plain out tell her. If you want to textbook it, then you'll need to exclude her from your life, get some social status, then come back and run game on her, but I don't think that will work for you here. If I were you, I'd meet her somewhere, preferably somewhere you have both been often if not regularly, so you are both comfortable (her house would be the best, but only if you are there often, and are welcome there) and just tell her that the whole just friends thing is not good enough. If she gives you the LJBF speech, give her the old "Friends don't put friends in categories like that", see how it goes down. If she loses you, too bad. She will grieve over it for AGES. As bad as it sounds, it is a good feeling to know that a hot girl is pining over the fact that she missed her chance with you. And that's what it is, it's her chance. Don't leave on bad terms though, let her know that you'll be around, and that she MAY have a chance sometime later. Don't go "Just friends?! Well FUCK YOU!!" or anything like that.

Seriously, man up. Either way it is going to hurt. Either twenty minutes of pain in your gut and nervous sweats and all the rest of the beauties that are acute AA, or probably as much as ten years of "fuck I should have made a move". The other alternative is "Well, I made a move, and she didn't want it. So I went out and got some more girls, at least I know." What do you want.

Just do it. *this message not sponsored or endorsed by Nike in any way*

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thanks guys a lot for the helpful advice it really is appreciated and im gonna take the plunge and let you know how it goes