so i'm in pharmacy school second year and theres this girl that just got into first year, i've known her from junior high. i met her on friday at a big sister big brother bbq and invited her out to a pharmacy gathering at a bar that night. she said she's consider it. i told her i'd introduce her to some people in second year and if it got boring i'd take her to a frat party afterwards. so she texts at 9:30 (the gatheringwas from 9 - 11) saying that "sorry!i feel too wierd going by myself lol but have fun. maybe next time" so i text back "your missing out on an awesome time. ill introduce you and keep you company" no reply. so i call her. and then she makes a bunch of excuses like its too late she takes an hour to get ready, she has to be up at 7 am for a 9am saturday class (pharmacy toastmasters) and again that she doens't know anybody. it was obvioulsy bulshit cuz i aasked if she DID know somebody there would she go, she said ya. so finally i gave up, but then called her back 10 minutes later (she might have got annoyed but whatever, i only intend to make her a friend!) with the yes ladder, but didn't work, so i just gave up. any advice on blowing past LMR!? (it might have something to do with the fact that at the bbq i kind of introduced her to a few ppl then ditched herbut she said it didn't care about that)

It sounds like there are a lot of issues going on here. I'm not sure why you say that you only want to make her a friend. It sounds like you want to take this girl out so you have to act like an alpha male at all times. By calling her and texting her repeatedly you are lowering your value to her and making it seem as though your night revolves around her. Don't give her the satisfaction...remember you are the alpha male and your time is precious. Don't make it seem like your evening depends on her. Also, I would suggest avoiding the old "you are going to miss out on a good time". Every time I said those type of things in the past it seemed to turn girls off even more. By saying that you actually call to attention the fact that she is not complying with your request. I would suggest playfully making fun of her maybe saying something about how she was scared to meet new people. Call her out on it and make her feel uncomfortable but don't ask her to come again.

I would suggest reading a lot more about developing inner game. I think that if you strenghten that you will see improved results. You want to get to the point that your evening not only does not revolve around her but her evening revolves around you. There are a lot of great books on inner game or articles you could search both within the forum and externally.

ya, i realize i was being pretty trry hard! i guess i just didn't care because i just wanted her to come so it would raise my value at the party and be like my woman wing/company, lol. i was going all out lol.

If you want her to come raise your value at a function such as the one you are describing you need to game her first. She won't raise your value very much if she's uncomfortable. Other girls in the vicinity will pick up on her body language real quick. She could actually end up destroying your value if such a case arises. Play it alpha and get her interested in you. That way not only will you have a girl interested in you at your bbq but other girls will pick up on her interest and flock to you.