Hey guys ive got a real problem!

when im out i often get approached by other girls, i dont know why, it just happens, and more often than not?!
anyway it sounds stupid but i dont know what to do! i feel like my usual game doesnt work, for example...

after a lengthy convo (lots of comfort) with a HB8

Me: so what attributes do you like about me? (dont ask me how i got on to ask that question!!)

HB8: i like you swirly eyes, your physique your cheeky smile...

Me: ...so if i was to ask you if you find me attractive what would you say?..

HB8: (giggle) yes...

at this point im thinkin result! (and equally shitting it) but i act cool and try to escalate based on these obvious IOI's! but she recoils, then disapears!

often i get real obvious IOI's and it all goes to shit, one question, WTF??

p.s. be as brutal as fuckin possible in your responses pls

off out now, wish me luck!! lol cheers, Green Eyes

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Sounds to me that by you playing it cool after she's admitted finding you attractive, she assumes the feeling is not reciprocated and so, in an embarassed attempt to save some face, she gets the hell outta there!

If I were you, in this situation, after she's admitted finding you attractive (SOI), I would then move on, swiftly into reaffirming that attraction felt in her mind - run some attraction routines so she feels strongly about you and not just your looks, and then proceed as normal my friend...

Wilde

You need to SOI her, you need to make her feel safe by letting her know tha she's not being used. Tell her you think "she's pretty" for example.

Then she feels she has a reason to stay with you.

She was probably intimidated.

If a girl comes up to you, you can never play it cool. To me smash all the game and go slight AFC compliment her! Don't focus on that though, focus on escalating.

If she came up to you AND gave you a compliment that's one IOI and a SOI! No matter how confident she is you brought her back to probably her most nervous momoent which is stating she likes you after walking up to you. Distract her by changing the subject with a focus on escalation.

Hope it helps

Yikes. First off, that was not an IOI, that was an SOI from her. The absolute worst thing to do here, aside from backhanding her across the face, was to play it cool and continue your usual game. You needed to reciprocate and reward big time, any type of push (i.e. acting cool) would instantly demolish the sarge here. Next time, tell her you feel the same way. Be playful but be truthful with your feelings---not to say you pour your heart out right away but tell her you find her attractive too and that you would like to see her.

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Fuck! thanks guys,

if i see her again i will try and recover, however if not, i will you those comments if the situation arises again!!

thanks!

Green Eyes

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