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I have to start going into sets believing I will get a positive response. Whenever I walk over to go Direct, I'm in two minds, thinking 'this will either go well or it will fuck up'....as a consequence I'm only going in about 50% instead of giving in 100%. So I'll work on this in my next approaches.
one thing though is still coming back everytime it seems. you decide to eject when it goes well. maybe it is a good idea to have a plan beforehand for setting up a meeting or something. tell them of a party or similar were they could meet you e.g., or tell them about your music and about the cool club you know etc. or if you want to keep it very directly then say: i definitely want to get to know you, what about having coffee together sometime. or i feel you not just have the looks but a great personality as well, lets meet at another place so we can get to know each other. or you seem fun we definitely should hang out together sometime. whatever suits you. but stop deciding to eject. keep up the good work.
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PS: i have another one you could try and it is quite charming if done smoothly. when she walks towards you on the street, put a big smile on your face as soon as you reach eye-distance and when she is about to walking by reach out as if you would give her a handshake. when she grabs your hand, make a small step closer to her, lift your hand, spin her around, drag her slightly towards you and say "so who are YOU?" while looking her straight into the eyes.
or when she walks by say "dont stare at my ass" with a straight face and when she has walked by and inevitably looks back, you say " i knew it" go over and say something like "so you are picking me up on the street like some piece of meat, you have to make up for that. whats your name?"
i mean you could try to give them something where they can play along with and see where that leads to and it is still some kind of a direct approach.
btw, it is tested but it is clearly no 100% success thing. you have to have the right mind and mood to make it work.