Alright ill simplify this to get right to the point, I started this new job and there was this smokin hot HB10, def hottest girl in the office by far, spent the first week pretty much freezin her out, i found out she had a bf that works in the same area....haha minor speed bump, well second week at work i started spittin game and we had a work party comin up by the end of the week on friday, i got my first pay check on thurs and had a huge night out and ended up comin in to work hung over as hell, so was not in my game but she took it as a freeze out, haha and she kept comin round all day, i told her i didnt feel like going to the work party and she spent about 30 min beggin me to come to the party, i agreed by sayin "alright ill go but not stayin long and if its lame, you owe me dinner on sat night" I woke up a bit at the party and started spittin game again, long story short, we ended up in the back going "lets go somewhere quiet"....back to my place and f-close, lol too easy, she was naked playin with herself when i came back in my room, haha, gotta love it

alright here is the scenerio, she made a move on me at the party and the whole office pretty much saw it and apparently there is photo evidence...well monday came around and she has been actin weird all week so i pretty much freeze her out again, with the occasional hi, apparently she didnt fully break up with her bf, haha

here's our conversation on thurs

clutch: hey so i have to say i feel weird tension between us and you have been actin strange, is there something i should know

an hour later

HB10: hey, umm im sorry, i guess ive just never been in this situation before, im really confused, i dont mean to make things weird and awkward, i just dont know how to act around you anymore, im sorry

clutch: act the same as you always did, i am, i dont see you any dif, at least not in a bad way, i dont like the awkardness, are you still with that dude, no worries to me, was a fun night and nice to get to know you a bit more even though your a wow fan, but stop makin things weird

HB10: lol im sorry clutch, i reall am, i try, i just feel like any time we speak people are going to be lookin at us.. and talkin.. but yeah i guess im just paranoid.. but yeah, i had a great night...your a great guy, but yeah i guess ill see you tom, go to sleep, haha xx

clutch: silly girl you knwo im not gonna sleep for a while, lol dont be sorry, just stop bein weird k, i like how you ignored my question

HB10: lol sorry..thought you wouldnt notice, haha, well nah we are just friends..tryin to be. hes makin it hard...but yeah would like to keep what happened just between us

clutch: haha you cant pull a fast one on me, im not gonna be the complication dont worry bout me, glad this is out now, wasnt that hard

HB10: lol yeah..im sorry i dragged you into my complicated story...eh and no, your the dork! hehe goodnight xx

clutch: ill let you make it up to me, you still owe me a beer, ill pencil you in on sunday, night

i did plenty of push/pull, we spent all friday night smashin and talkin, thats where a couple inside jokes come from, no biggie


Main question now......where to go with this, I already f-closed, I dont want her as a LTR, just as a few fun nights

Suggestions would be appreciated!!!! How to deal with the apparent ex....well monday we move offices and he won't be around so that could be a good thing!!

Sounds like ASD to me. You did well to comfort her, and ease her mind that it wasn't a big mistake to knock boots with you.

I think the next step is to smooth it over more by taking a genuine interest in her, and reassuring her that whatever happens between you stays between you. Listen to what she bitches about when she talks about her 'bf', put yourself in the frame of a rebound fling, and treat her like that - do fun stuff that her bf wouldn't do, live out a couple of fantasies, that sort of thing.

If she gets clingy, remind her gently that you don't think you can get too involved with someone who just got out of a relationship, and that she needs time to rediscover herself.

Good luck!

Thanks bro

Well the thing is that i have given her the opportunity to hang with me socially but she stated that things are "complicated" with her ex right now and doesnt think it would be a good idea, my response was a bf destroyer and the freeze out, i gave her the classic "your're prolly happy with him and i couldnt possibly treat you as good as he does blah blah blah" she ate it up haha, but yeah did a freeze out on sat and we will see what happens on mon when that rolls around, i think with him not being around its just gonna get that much easier for me

thank for your advice on the clingy stuff, haha i like that idea and it works perfect

From exp. Getting a LTR from work that already have a BF is gonna end in tears. Yours or hers. Have as many hot nights as possible and let her get back to her BF when she gets tired of it, just remember not to fall for her! That way she can get out of the relationship with dignity and there will be no talking about what happened. It will seem like it is her decision!

yeah man totally understand where your comin from, and def on that same playin field, but it seems like he is trying to salvage something with her, but now we are in a new office and how conveniently our desks face eachother across the room, haha, i would never plan something like that, haha but yeah on monday she was pretty much eye fuckin me the whole day and i did get some smiles and stuff from her, so i know she is interested just stuck between a sticky situation

my main question is do i keep sargin this chick or let her know whats up and go from there

Clutch

haha hey bro didnt get enough time to talk about this situation with u on satday night..

some good advice has already been given and you've played this one pretty well so far. u can easily pull a few more roots from her without much effort on ur part. just a bit of teasing and kino at work should be enough to sustain the interest. its good that you've realized wat u want out of her and that u dont want her as an LTR and it seems like you've already indirectly conveyed that to her (if not make it clearer that ur just looking for some fun).

continue sarging her at work and invite her out on the weekend because its gonna be necessary to TAKE THE INITIATIVE in this situation since you both know there is interest and its just a matter of making her think less about her ex (which will be easy at work but harder during the weekend).

another reason why u should take the initiative first here is because if shes confused about her 'complicated situation' shes less likely to be the first to make a move and more likely to just go for whatever offer is thrown her way (including offers from the ex). inviting her out will also increase plausible deniability because she'll rationalize this to herself as 'just hanging out' even though she knows it will obviously lead to more.

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Hey guys so.......after thinkin and deciding my mentality on this one is

I SAW....I GAMED....I CONQUERED....NEXT!!!!!

haha but yeah she is still diggin me but still talkin with her ex and i dont play that game, haha even though i have done the same with other girls, but yeah we will see what happens, pretty much a total freeze out now, not even botherin with her anymore

i have planted my flag....next target

what yall think???

thats the right attitude but if shes a legit hb10, maybe hit it a few more times?

haha that's what i'm talking about!

btw, good stuff clutch, i'm glad you posted this. i like the way you handled things following full monty - giving rep

thats tokken risistance deal with it

Sounds like she's trying to have her cake and eat it too. Move on.