alright now i talked to this one girl and i called her we talke d for like a hour then i got her AIM n she imed me for like 2 days when when was on now she dont do it and she dosnt start convo's? now why is this happening?!

give it time... There is too much of a good thing... She is flaking girls want mystery in their life... She probably got a lil bored from so much talking. I would wait 4 or 5 days then txt her an opener that adds a POI to you. see if she replies with an IOI and take it from there... Dont let the convo's go over a 20 minutes at max. ( i know i fail at this one too alot cause i get excited abot the new girl and want to talk to her)

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open her no matter who she is, regret is a worst word then failure...

the urge to talk to a new girl, especially one who you are attracted to and is showing ioi's back at you, can be overwhelming. I used to always game girls as much as possible and as quick as possible using all forms of communication e.g email, text, facebook, meeting up etc. You could be the most intresting person in the world, but if you show all your cards as soon as you get to the table, your never gona win. As the poster above says, ease off a bit, be busy, shes not the only girl in your life and if she is, pretend like shes not! Just remeber that you are a busy guy who has a number of important things to do except talking to her.

Another thing you can do if freeze out for a while, then after maybe a week of not talking to her, and im including not talking to her even when she starts to open convos with you let her know you cant talk, your a tad busy SPAM (just for this week), then open her again with a 'open loop', e.g 'omg...just saw something that reminded me of you', i have yet to have a girl not text me back or facebook me back when ive used this message. Just rember that she will reply with what, dont answer with your next message. When you do tie up the loop, make sure you start a new one just before hand so you always have a new open loop to keep her intrest going

slick

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alright soooo how the hell do i get her to im me like can i get some stuff to say to start convos?

i dont use aim personally, is it like msn? If so are you saying the problem lies in getting her online at all? and do you have any other forms of communicating with her e.g number etc

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yes i do i have her cell but when i claled her to other times she didnt pick up then when i went on aim she IMed me but then 2 days ago she didnt no more n when i called she didnt answer cuz she was mad about some guy, and yea MSN, AIM and yahoo messanger is all the same

If i have IM'd a guy a few times I expect him to IM me back and initiate convo the next time. I know some of my friends that are girls feel the same way. If they initiated the convo the last time, they would refuse to IM/call/text a guy the next time. We want you to show interest so that we know that you are interested

well try an open loop text message, i find text messaging invaluable personally and as youve already called numerous times, its a change of tact that should get a response, then tease and end the convo quickly before it feels right to, as she will feel its ended prematurly and feel the need to contact you or respond again more readily next time. Try to shorten convos as its very easy to go back into 4 hour convo mode, this will mean she is more likely to respond as she doesnt have to worry about massive convos taking up her time and therfore more likely to want to respond.

just an idea

slick

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yeah ill IM her n see what happens... btw why do u want guys to show intrest jus to see if they like u back? or just to play hard 2 get?