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| Constantine00 | PostPosted: Wed Aug 20, 2008 9:38 am | |
| Offline | | Member of MPUA Forum |  | Joined: Mon Jul 28, 2008 10:10 am Posts: 157 | | This isn't a traditional FR in the sense that I wasn't actively out sarging. I was at physical therapy minding my own business but sometimes when you least expect it, you meet someone amazing (as in this case) or something amazing happens. I walked in to physical therapy last Tue. and sitting on a bench next to a guy in a wheelchair was this attractive blond hb9 that instantly flipped all my switches at once; and I immediately began to fuck up by staring...no, GAWKING at her which she noticed because she looked right back at me. I didn't go up and introduce myself to her because I wasn't sure if the guy in the wheelchair who I know was her boyfriend or not. (I did ask her later and she said that he wasn't that they were friends and she is in school to be a physical therapist so I guess this is practice for her). Then, there is a small room aside the main therapy room and the guy she was with and I happened to be in there at the same time for about an hour. I still didn't introduce myself and for some of the time, the guy she came with, my therapist, his therapist and her were having a conversation about something I had nothing to do with so being that I have only been sarging for a month I didn't know what to do so I did what I always do; looked out the window and looked bored. Then at one point I caught what should have been a lucky break when my therapist asked her to help out with ME and we were finally introduced. I probably did this part right, I stood with good posture, spoke in a steady ALPHA voice and maintained eye contact with her (at one point she broke the eye contact as if she were uncomfortable or nervous and I wasn't sure if this was an IOI???) but I didn't smile or act playful. I asked all the questions and she gave no IOI's, just answered my questions. This girl is amazing to me on so many different levels. She has a body to die for, she exudes class and sweetness, and she just has that extra something that I feel for her that other hb's with the same or even better looks don't do for me. I am very new at this and I know I didn't do much right at all here. The thing is I will be seeing her again and again and I'd like to make it a goal to eventually f-close this one; go around with her on my arm as my gf. I know I don't have a 2nd chance to make a 1st impression but I'm hoping in our future encounters as I grow as a PUA and with your help I can redeem myself. Any constructive criticism or advice for a newbie? Thanks -Opium _________________ "Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail"-Emerson
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| ace_of_spades | PostPosted: Thu Aug 21, 2008 7:51 am | |
| Offline | | Moderator Emeritus |  | Joined: Wed Oct 31, 2007 4:05 pm Posts: 503 Location: London | | If she still speaks to you, it is recoverable.
Since it will be a recurring situation, there's no need to rush things. Just be comfortable in interactions with her. Make sure you're not the dancing monkey and make your convos two-way: don't prove how amazing you are and have her nod along. You said she clicked all your attraction switches without even speaking to you, but that's not how she wants to feel. Don't be won over too easily!
Qualification is extremely important! Discover commonalities, have her tell you stories and when you feel she's worked for your attention, REWARD her. If she hasn't worked or her effort seems half-assed - demonstrate that you won't be won over unless she really puts herself out there. Having standards is attractive!
And smile some more. It's not a bad thing per se you weren't smiling when you were introduced, but in general smiles help improve the first impression. At the same time, don't turn into this tool that constantly has a fake smile on - you're allowed to have bad days or bad moments, it's not beta, it's being emotionally in order.
Don't get stuck in the LJBF zone either - break rapport every now and then! Disagree with her, throw some sexual innuendo in there, tease her a bit! Adam Lyons' book handles this in more detail.
Hope this helps.
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| Constantine00 | PostPosted: Thu Aug 21, 2008 8:17 pm | |
| Offline | | Member of MPUA Forum |  | Joined: Mon Jul 28, 2008 10:10 am Posts: 157 | | Thank you. _________________ "Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail"-Emerson
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| Constantine00 | PostPosted: Thu Aug 21, 2008 8:18 pm | |
| Offline | | Member of MPUA Forum |  | Joined: Mon Jul 28, 2008 10:10 am Posts: 157 | | Thank you. _________________ "Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail"-Emerson
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