Okay, so my firend's on my account trying to pull off his game and this is what we encountered...

Him: wow you friended me kind of fast....are you that desperate for friends or do you just stalk people on facebook?

HB: ...?

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LOL, so I read all these guys negging girls, dont' think it works too well eh?

It can be difficult to understand a persons tone over the internet, the way he wrote it makes him sound somewhat like a dick.

Try it again on a different girl, but put a smiley face or a winking face at the end of it. If it works the way I think it will, it will make the girl reply by qualifying herself to you and you can work your magic from there.

honestly, i really dont' think that is going to work sir... most of the girls that i'm friends with don't like being hit on by people ono the internet, aka creepers

well... yea internet sucks for "more than friends" relationship... it CAN work, but man... thats not the way god made us! god didnt invented facebook, he invented chicks! its better that way

It really depends on the situation. I have never tried to pick up girls on the internet before, but there are plenty of posts on this forum by people who have succesfully picked up girls through Facebook/Myspace/etc....

He definitely came off as a dick, I was wondering why he was being so rude when I read it. That doesn't even qualify as a "neg", as there is no positive part to it, which is what makes a neg, a neg. That was mostly just a creepy and insulting attempt at a tease.

This is what we call learning from experience. Don't just go, "well that didn't work, so obviously people are wrong and it's bullshit!" Take the time to go over things when they don't work out the way you want, as well as when they go well, because you learn more from your mistakes than you ever will from your successes. "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want", in the words of Randy Pausch; so listen to the man and realise that although you didn't get what you were hoping, you got experience and you can learn from that and hopefully do better next time, but if not, that's just more experience.

Do you have ANY idea how many people on here have spent YEARS working on getting the results they desire? I've been working at it hard for a year now, come next month and I've known about the community for a little over a year and a half now, but I've been trying to develop skills with women for as long as I can remember (and I can remember fooling around with the girl next door when I was 5, but that didn't help get me more than 1 girl, for 2 weeks, from 6-18).

DO NOT GIVE UP SO EASILY!

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Not giving up, just trying to get girls to come to my party from this school without sounding like a total creeeper, what to do what to do

"Hey guys! How goes?!" Notice the energy and positive vibes being given off, YOU ARE FUN, "I'm throwin' a sweet party, bunch of people are gonna show up {input any details that would perk that group of people's interest, ie booze rules, parents there or not, night it's happening, drop names of people those people like, interesting activities that may be planned, cool features of where the party is held such as pool, pool table, various games and such} you should come."

You aren't asking them, you aren't making it sound like you need them to come to make it fun, it IS fun and they will come to get some of it. If you tell tons of people and say that so-and-so from the groups of other people that you've talked to and that they like, is coming/planning on coming (this is basically the same thing as "thinking of", only it sounds more concrete) then they've got peer pressure to go and more reasons because other people they like to hang out with.

Making a party happen can seem like a daunting task, but if you just accept that it's gonna happen and the take the neccessary steps, then you'll see it's just like Cat Empire sings, "It wasn't hard! To get the party started!" Seriously, check out the song and keep it in your head, it totally helps when I'm getting stuff set up.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

lol you really do mak it seem easier than it really is. for one, i know noone that any of the girls know, i'm pretty sure because they go to a diffferent school than me, and asking someone to a party online is creepy no matter what, i was going to actually go running on their campus and maybe run into hbs but i have no openers =\

Walk around campus and walk up to random groups of people that look like they'd be cool to have at your party (don't do just girls, you need some guys there too, or it's gonna be weird, although the ratio would hopefully favor ladies) and tell them about the party.

Opener: "Hey guys! How goes?!" Do you KNOW the definition of an opener? An opener is merely a line that begins conversation with a group of people, or individual person. Sounds like that line fits the definition to me, so you can stop worrying about it.

The interesting thing you talk about: The party! It's gonna be fun, you tell them how it will be fun and give them reasons why they want to be there, but without making it sound like you are begging them to come in order to make it fun, because they'll be coming FOR the fun.

I know you are thinking that this is hard, but that is because of pre-conceived notions and social anxiety. I promise you, if you just go and not worry about why it won't work, why it's hard, etc and you just make the party happen, you'll look back and go, "Wow, Rye was right, that was pretty easy!"

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

I have tried playing a bit on facebook with negs, and comments. I stopped because never get a reply. I will continue to try but most of my effort have failed. If people aren't interested in meeting other people on the internet they will be very skeptical of strangers, and the mentality is the killer.

If you ask someone on the street for their name chances are that they give it, but on the internet they won't give it simply because they can't tell who you are with just a few words.

well on friday i'm going on campus with a friend to recruit for the party, hopefully this will work out, i'll do a whole FR on it then =)

Hehe, I JUST realised why you were so resistant before. You were thinking of this all over facebook, which isn't a good way to arrange a party at all. That's definitely a thing you need to do in person. I kinda viewed that as an obvious step though. Unfortunately you are gonna have to actually interact with people in order to get them interested in your party.

What you are using to make them interested, is basically just your charisma and energy. You're building this all upon that, a party isn't something that you can properly communicate over the net, it just isn't possible. You have to do what is known as one of the five key attraction switches and emote. This draws people to you and they will want to be at your party.

If you don't believe me, I was recently at a music festival with just a couple friends, only one of which I really know well. I decided to try a social experiement and went around lauding myself as being full of fun and good times (of course you aren't saying these things, you just hella emote them) and I got some ridiculous results. I've got these glowing juggling balls that people love and then by being loud and having fun, people decided I was fun and fun happened around me and instantly I had a literal crowd of people. At one point I decided to take off and get some food and drink and my buddy had to tell me that I would dissappoint a bunch of people back to the beach if we didn't make it back quick. I came back and things had quieted down, but as soon as I show up with my glowing balls and good times everyone is having fun and partying again. Social proof has some huge power if you learn how to use it and you can use it to create parties just by being the guy to do it and being fun.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye