Ok - Now I have been on this site for about a week now. I am trying to get to my first approach but I really have an AA issue of the highest order.

Ok on saturday I decided to go in to town (I had some bits to do anyway) and have a go at some approaches - I even went and tried some new cologne (two types, one on each wrist) with the intention of an option opener. Could I get it together to sort it, could I heck. I left town feeling pretty rubbish and insignificant - I've not given up hope yet by any means, please do not get me wrong but just could not get it together.
Thought I would have another go this eve, so went to the supermarket (needed to get bread anyway) - I could not even think of how to open, but then also got paranoid about opening someone then what the hell do I say next.

I really am starting to wonder how to move on from this, I realise that the more you do the easier it gets - but how on earth do you get off the starting blocks. I'm sure there are plenty of posts on here giving good advice on where to go next but I just wanted to share how I was feeling. Sarging by yourself is no easy task is it, and in a daytime environment is even harder isn't it?

Tyree

In different situations and places its more difficult to open, psychology.
Next time you go (it helps if you have a reason other than just to pickup girls) go into some of the shops (e.g clothes shops) and if you see a pretty girl open her and ask her about the products .etc (its her job to talk to you). Do this a couple of times just to get warmed up, then go somewhere where people are seated, maybe a park, a square or anywhere you think of that that would be a good place and just make normal conversation.

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With the colonge opener, putting it on your wrists and preparing to open, just make your anxiety worse.
I think daygame by myself is great, because 1. there's nobody i know to make a fool out of myself in front of. 2 there's nobody to fuck it for me. 3 all of her attention is focused on me. 4 i just makes it easier (and less thretening) when approaching.
Also be awear of what times of day are best to sarge & when all the girls come out and its more busy. Its nice to have options and more than 1 opportunity.

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