When: Friday night
Where: House party in San Jose, CA
Party time is social time! Time to let go of inhibitions are just have FUN! I was loud, proud, and moving all about. I was introducing myself around to everyone, including guys, with a friendly vibe that said "You SHOULD know me."
I started the night off by working with HBWatch. I mentioned that I liked her cool leather watch and took it off her to look at it. Then I locked her in by putting it on myself and giving her my wristband in return. Kino all around. At the time I thought she would be my target for the rest of the night... then more girls came to the party.
When I was in set, other girls would constantly be dragging me away for one reason or another. Sometimes it was HBWatch flirting with me, trying to get her watch back. Sometimes it was HBInsane trying to bite me or tackle me. Sometimes it was HB22 (22 yrs old) trying to take a picture with me. Sometimes it was HBWhitePants trying to get me to dance. Sometimes it was just some other hot girl that distracted my attention. Great for preselection, but somewhere along the line I completely lost focus. I lost my sense of decisiveness and no longer had a target. When that happens, you don't get laid.
It was great that I was getting so much female attention, though, right? Now, how did I do it? Am I incredibly good looking? No. I wasn't even wearing my best clothes. I wasn't even wearing a hat. Was I consciously running through the M3 model in my head as I was talking to every girl? No. Was I accessing their imaginations with structured language patterns while eliciting their core values? Not this time, buddy.
My focus was on having FUN and giving others a fun time, kinda like when you're playing with children. Yes, you could say that I kinda treated the girls like little kids. I guess I overused that "pick her up and spin her around" thing because I did that to like all my potential targets and I'm assuming everyone saw. Hell, at least it made me come off as a fun mofo! Well, that's just because I AM a fun mofo.
Also, a couple nights before the party I was hanging out with my good friend Dak. I realized that I liked hanging out with Dak because he doesn't have an ego. He's just damn cool with everything. I kept that in the back of my mind and was pretty much ego-less at the party, which drew people to me. The ego wants to take and people are repelled by that. Without ego, all you want to do is give. And people LOVE that.
However, there were some things that held me back. For one, no focus, so no specific target. Two, I've been so brainwashed by Indirect Game that I actually could not naturally go into sexual state before running game for a good while and isolating. Yes, that's a bad thing. I'll work on that.
When I first met HB22 and her friend HBGlasses, we were outside the house smoking cancer sticks. They were trying to give me shit for being only 18, saying that I'm just a baby. Haha, like I haven't been through this before a million times.
Frame control, passed shit tests, indifference to age, etc. Too easy. They showed more and more interest in me as the night went on. I got their numbers later. There was something about HB22 that intrigued me - just a cool confident aura - and that's why I wanted her number.
Lesson learned: I gotta balance out my awesome fun side with more sexual framing and FOCUS. Or, as Tim from RSD would say, I gotta balance woo AND intent.
CHAT