Hi everyone,
I'm going to a speed dating event on the weekend...does anyone have any experience or suggestions for this kind of thing?
Thanks
S.

Go hard son, take a spoon of cement with your coffee and harden up! practice, practice practice. BUT dont do exaclty the same thing every time with each new candidate. Practice as many different openers, attraction, comfort routines as possible - go in with the intention that you are the prize and OOZZZE CONFIDENCE be the AMOG that is phased by nothing. I wont wish you good luck you wont need it, cause luck relys on chance and you have a track to run on.

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Firehouse: thanks for the advice and words of encouragement. I guess I'm seeking advice from PUAs who have gone to some speed dating events (i'm guessing PUAs don't need to). I think speed dating might be easier than clubs/pubs since an opener is not needed and you get to meet lots of girls. The disadvantage is you have limited time and lots of competition.

If you are an AMOG with game there will be no competition in the speed dating arena because they are all AFC's. I use these techniques in social business networking situations all the time to sharpen my skill. I move from mulitiple set to set quick hellos then move on so its really no different but build your charisma and confidence with your inner game then practice your outer game with everyone till you are caliberated. I am always working on calibration and balance. Seems we never stop learning!

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Thought I'd make a post about my performance last night. As I have no experience and have only read a few chapters of The Game my intention was to use this to see how I'd perform naturally...to set a baseline.

I located the venue then sat in a cafe across from it to scope out the punters as they arrive. Upon entering the venue I saw a 3-set on some sofas, a group of 7-8 guy in a corner and a few other guys around the bar. 2 things I kept repeating to myself were "be the AMOG" and "3-sec rule". I walk past the group of guys directly to the 3-set. "hey guys mind if I join u guys?" lame i know. I tried to keep up with the AMOG thing. One of the girls asked if I were a Leo because Leos are confident etc...I took that as a compliment. The mistake I made here i think was not selecting a target...again it a weird situation (speed dating) and i wasnt particularly attracted to any of them.

More ppl arrive and the speed dating begins. Tried to be dominant and control conversations. I tried to stay away from the canned lines but did use "so what have you going for u besides ur good looks". The response was "bet u say that to all the girls".

During the mid-way break I see a 2set at the bar who weren't participants...i go over an chat to them..."so u guys participants or spectators?" I gave myself a pat on the back for that line. One girl was chatty but the other wasnt really interested. Didn't know how to take them further so i excused myself and chatted to one of of the 3 girls i met when i first came in. She was interesting and I found myself being more attracted to her. I should have done more kino but i'm just not really a touchy person...will have to work on that. I managed to catch her as she was about to leave for the night and she volunteered her email addy. I interpreting that as a big IOI as contact details of ppl interested in eachother would be distributed the following day anyway.

Im going to send her a quick email...and maybe set up a date or something. I have to avoid the LJBF thing as this has been a problem in the past...I'm just too much of a nice guy, and nice guys finish last.

Thanks for reading.

First impressions and appearance are very important, u only have a very short amount of time to impress her.

In Malcolm Gladwells book Blink it says that people make a judgement of each other in a couple of seconds and stick to it.

sykosi - GREAT WORK! Just try not to get one-itis.

Search out Zips list of homework material I think it will help you greatly.

It is great to hear that you walked straight up to the 3 set and opened them up - you will get better. You see you WERE the amog to them so your mindset and bodylanguage were congruent.

Oh you dont have to have a target to just build social communication thats what a natural amog does. Keep doing what you are doing because the more mistakes you make the better you will get even when you self critiqued you realised more kino, less needy.

All you need to keep working on is calibration and intergration of more material till you find the right situational balance.
how would you respond to this now? It sounds like she gave you a canned response.

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