Aight, so I'm trying to hang out with this chick who I'm pretty sure is into me. Last night we hung out was Wednesday night, where I got her number and left it at that. The next day she asked me to meet her downtown for 18+ night at the clubs, I told her I might come but never did. She texts me at 3:45am that night (morning?) saying "Heeey!!". I didn't wake up for it, text her the next day asking how downtown was. She asked what I did, told her I went to a local bar to play darts and shit, ask her what she is doing that night (Friday night). She said she had no plans yet, and asked what I was doing. I replied with "Hanging out with you" and she replied with "Oh really?!! ". So I get outta work at 9:30 that night and text her telling her we weren't having people over (last time we hung out my roommates and I had planned a party for Friday night) but she could still come hang out. She never replied.

Her friend, who likes one of my roommates, comes over that night. I guess she was supposed to come over with her and hang out, but instead she went to a party. So I leave it at that. Saturday rolls around and we are having people over. I send a text saying, "Party tonight, my place." No response. So I go out to another party have a good time (my party sucked, bunch of one of my roommates friends who are all skaters, not my type). Then tonight out of the blue at 2am she texts me with another "Heyyy!" What the hell do I do about this? I just want to hang out with her, simple right? I was thinking about ignoring the text, but my roommate suggests I respond (he has got some game, trust me). So I wait an hour and reply with, "Hey cutie, what u doing up so late". I'm assuming she is sleeping now. I want to go to the beach tomorrow night, might have a few people going down already (car show is held, but also a nice place to chill). Should I invite her down or wait for her to say something?

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Are you communicating via text or phone or both? If it is only text, which it seems to be, that is your problem right there. There is nothing personal about a text message. But this problem I bet lead to this girl being a flak. Which means it is best to drop her and find some other girl to replace her with.

I'm starting to think she is a flak as well. She seems interested though, but who knows. I stick to texting because I usually talk to her when I'm at work, where I can't exactly make a phone call. I asked her why she feels the need to text me early in the morning, to which she replied that she felt bad she never texted me back to tell me she wasn't coming. I invited her to come bowling tonight, but she said she had to get up early the next morning. We didn't go bowling anyways, since it was a Sunday night and they close early. So we start texting each other and I finally learn a little about her. Turns out she is going to work at Abercrombie with me when college starts back up. She also tells me she is a model, to which I reply thats something I could do. She says back, "Haha yea i think you could too! " Then I told her I was going to go watch a movie and to not ignore me if I invite her out this week. She then asks what I'm doing Thursday night, and I say, "Dunno why u going downtown again to get denied for 21 ha" (she has a fake ID, but got denied at the bar they went to last Thursday) She replies with, "Haha real funny! Maybe unless we figure something else out.. " Does this mean she wants me to come up with something else to do? My roommates and I want to go do karaoke one night, if we can find a place that has it. I told her we will figure something out, and we said our g'nights.

If she flakes on me anytime this week I'm going to have to cut her off. I dunno why she couldn't just tell me she wasn't coming over the first time, wouldn't have really effected much.

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Cut her off one night. Do not respond back. Dunno if you have or have not. Do not accept 2nd class behavior.
At this point you tell her what yall are doing. Do not just say "hanging out with you" (which wasnt bad) Say, "I am getting a drink with you @ TGI Fridays after work. Be there @ 930, and wear something cute "

Be more direct and put a visual in her head of you and her having a good time together. It will be something she will remember, this way when you confirm she is less likely to flake. If she flakes, than she no longer deserves your attention. Freeze her out because at this point she needs to do something to try and make it back up to you.

Good luck bro.

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First off stop texting her while you are at work. It adds no personal connection. She can wait for a phone call after you get off from work, which will build up your personal connection with her. As far as dealing with her flakiness (which I bet has to do with the texting and lack of phone calls), make plans to see her for what ever (and call her up for it this time). If she does not show up cut her loose. And when she comes to work at your store just keep her as a co-worker and nothing else.

No texting during work? But... but it makes the day go by so much quicker!

Haha aight I'll start using the calling function on my cell, all this crazy new technology turns out I can actually talk to another human being using voices.

Thanks for the help guys. See Key, I just noticed that was you. Never see you in the chat much anymore...

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Texting seems to be the only way the dips around here talk. I wouldnt stop texting. Just cut her off... it seems like you are chasing a little too hard.... When she is texting you its like she is giving you a little taste and is waiting for you to start the chase again.

Yeah bro, its me. I had to switch things up a bit. I am in the chat a couple times a week.. I have just had a few dips taking up my free time...

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So text a friend instead.

So I'm ignoring her tonight, but want to invite her out tomorrow night for game night at the house. I'll give her a call after I get outta my first job tomorrow and see whats up.

And its hard to text my other friends, they all work all day or sleep in till 5...

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I dunno about this... My manager at work (who is family friends with this girl's family) told me she is talking with another co-worker's friend. I think instead of hanging out with me she is out with him. Which I understand, can't win 'em all. I'm thinking I'm the guy she'll go with if things don't work out with him, which I'm not all about. Regardless, I called her to invite her to game night. She said possibly, since she is going out to dinner with "some friends" but said she will probably come out afterwards. I told her to give me a call if she is coming. Then she went on to talk about work and how she went to orientation yesterday... I ended the conversation early telling her to let me know if she is coming later. If she comes, great. If not, I'll have a fun time anyways winning Life.

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Oh I didn't know they can do that?! crazyyyy ha



Anyway, when I started to read this thread, as a girl, my first thought was she might be talking to someone else as well. Of course that is not for certain. Anyway the goal of PUA is to approach many women so if you suspect she is interested in other guys as well as you, then I think you should keep flirting with other girls and make it known that she is not the only girl your talking to. You don't want to get a case of....oh what do you guys call it...."oneitis"? haha

Oh no doubt I'm still talking with other girls, but I'm not sure if I'm exactly making it known to her or not. I mean, I have recent Facebook wall posts from some chicks, and have yet to answer her question in her wall post. Plus, if she ever works while I'm working, she will know how big a flirt I am at work...

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So what should I do now? I've never had a girl choose someone else over me... This is all new to me. Freeze her out? If she asks me to hang out tomorrow night, do I ignore her? I don't like to lose, which is what I feel like is happening. If I do freeze her out, does that mean also not inviting her to our party this weekend? Or should I just chalk it up as a lost cause and settle for the LJBF because she will be my co-worker in time...

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Hmm well if you like this girl then I would suggest being more definitive with your texts. Instead of "what are you doing saturday" say "I am going to a car show on saturday, i'll pick you up at one." Most girls like when guys come with straight forward plans (supposing they have some interest in them) because it shows confidence and it eliminates that awkward conversation of: "what do you want to do"--"uhh i dont know what do you want to do? you pick"

I see what you mean, noted for next time. But I'm not the guy who chases, that isn't me. So in other words, I'm not sure if I want to continue texting and making plans if she is just going to flake on them anyways. Seems like a lost cause to me, but then again, like I said, I don't like to lose.

Her best friend came over last night for a bonfire and didn't know who the kid was until after I said who's friend it was. This girl doesn't know I heard she was talking to another guy, she hasn't told me anything. She always says she is hanging out with "friends", why is she hiding him from me? I guess she also ignores her best friend when she hangs out with this kid and his friends, which is pretty immature...

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