The other day at my job ( i am a cashier) a hot older lady (30's) said I looked like a famous actor. I didn't know how to take it as I was raised to respect older people, especially women (I am only 19), I desperately wanted to flirt with her but didn't know how she would take it. Do you know where I could've taken it from there, preferably to get an F-close? (sorry, I'm very horny!!).

Another question is, when women in their 20's and 30's call you sweetie and love, is that an IOI?

Another lady in her 30's or 40's made a comment about how she liked my hair and how her daughter does hair and its the new fashion (something I didn't know). Is this someone making polite conversation, or is it an IOI? Sorry , I'm clueless as f*ck , which is probably why I haven't had a sexual experience in a while.

And yet another lady wanted me to help her find some vitamin, she was with her daughter and mother, the whole time I kept getting sexual impulse for her. We were very close when i was looking for the vitamins, touching arms, and then when i found what she wanted she stroked my arm and said thank you. IOI, or just my horny teenage brain?

From what it looks like she was touching you on the arm and having a good time, so it does seem like she was giving out an IOI.

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Kind of tricky to tell. If a woman of 20 calls you sweetie or love, that could very well be an IOI. But if 30 or 40, much less likely (IMO - unless she's a cougar or something).

Sweety or hunnie is an overly used word. I highly doubt it would be an IOI coming from that age range.

How much conversation does people usually engage you in when you're at work? If a complete stranger tells you that you look like an actor, think about it, she's making conversation! While it's not a powerful IoI, think of it as an opener from her. Either just continue the conversation with just something without freezing and thinking of what to say with something as simple as "Who do I look like?" or something a bit more cocky like "You know what, I've been told that before but noone has ever told me who. So tell me, who do I look like?". Roleplaying, if possible, would make good fun and show playfulness.

If you tell a girl that you like her shoes, is it really because of her shoes? Compliments like that are rarely given to be polite, but to initiate conversation and show possible interest. Few men tell random ugly girls that their hair is nice.

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She was not giving you any IOI's, just a compliment that's all.
Nope.
She was mostly likely trying to sell her daughter's hair services to you.
Most likely your teenage brain at work. Some females are touchy and/or flirty by natural and are not giving you IOI's.

I think jurupa had it right. Women in their 30's and 40's say sweetie and love in a motherly way. I think if you hear a way a cougar says it, then you will def be able to tell the difference. As for mentioning her daughter she could have thought you would be a good match with her daughter. No cougar will mention their daughter if they are trying to pick you up. Unless you are into picking up an older women, I wouldn't even bother trying to interpret what they say...women in their 30s-40s don't use "sweetie" the same way a girl in her 20s does.

How does one seperate an IOI from a compliment?

Why's the game so damn difficult.

I see. well I personally am very interested in these women in their 30's and late 20's, I find them attractve and have so much more to share with them conversation wise that I find very hard sharing with women my age, such as strong interest in history and alternative spirituality, which girls my age find boring.

Ok if you are interested in these women and they throw you a line like that my advise would be to say something to get them off their game. An older woman hitting on a younger man likes to be in charge and hold the power. The whole point of being a PUA is that you're the controller. So for instance if she comes up to you and says "You look like Johnny Depp" you could say something like... "Someone told me that last week, only she was trying to hit on me."

By saying something like that, her intentions will become more clear. If she was hitting on you she will work harder at trying to get your attention. If she was just being nice, she will laugh off the comment and act more platonic

If someone says to me oh you look like my brother or friend i always joking reply "oh your friend he must be a very good looking chap!"

Mostly its the delivery that separates the two. I don't know how to explain this very well via text. But I will say as you get older and get more social experiences you will be able to tell the two apart. The best I can really do is to say that IOI is flirting while a compliment is a pat on the back.
If it was easy then there would be no need for the game.
Besides what Bonita said a lot of older women are for the most part only looking for one thing when it comes to younger guys, which is sex and/or physical relationships. Saying that a lot of older women want a younger guy to give them some sort of excitement when it comes to the relationship side of things as they want to feel young. At the same time you have to have a mature side that can handle the maturity of the older woman. You may also want to do some research on the topic before you dive into such things because I have found a bit of knowledge in dealing with such women is a useful thing.

Chances are that unless the women were physically attracted to you, none of these are IOIs, from what you've told me, you didnt do anything to flip the attraction switches or even attempt to establish a female-male intrest. You just did ur job.

So where do I start when looking into flipping that switch? I do recall giving these women strong eye contact, not on purpose but rather it's how I was raised (to look people in the eyes when talking to them). I hear this is an important element of attraction, could this have impacted it? It also seemed like I was giong out of my way to be nice to them (it's just how I naturaly am, wasn't trying to game them or anything).


Thanks.

Your job makes it tough to show that you are interested in someone. Women will assume that you are being nice because it is your job to be nice and help them. Eye contact in this context can be mistaken for just being attentive. I think you are going to have to step outside your normal roles as a cashier and really throw in some material that they wouldn't hear from a typical cashier so they realize that you are interested in them.