I was at a cafe tonight with all my friends a few new people I've never met, and I had the best seat out of the group, I was in the corner surrounded by my friends, and had a whole view of everything going on. 2 blonde girls walk up with 4 guys. Competition? Plentiful. Are the girls interested in these guys? Probably not.

So when they walk up, I just look at one eye to eye, I hold the eye contact for a good 20 seconds, and smile. She smiles back and I'm back to socializing with my friends, not paying any attention to her any more.

Her and her friend walk past us, I talked a little loud to my friend and said "that one is wearing jeans from Sears, and that one is wearing Paige Jeans" So I'm not sure if they heard me or not.

The girl I smiled at walks past on her cellphone. I say to the group of people "that's some guy thats really into her, but she has no interest in him, and he's trying to make plans for tomorrow night on the phone right now"

I think she might of heard and she looked up, I'm always smiling, and I gave her a little nod. She walks past our table again, and I say "that's my girl" She turns around flicks her hair and smiles.

Thoughts on where I could have taken this:
1. Walked up to the table she was sitting at, sat down with the group. Asked if the girls were single, which they probably were and said something like "So you 4 guys are trying to get with these 2 girls, you guys are lucky i'm not a fan of fake blondes, otherwise it would be this one guy getting with these 2 girls" And just smile see where the convo goes.

2. Told her to come sit down for a minute when they were leaving.

3. Flicked her my business card.

I was dressed nicely too with a Burberry shirt, and designer jeans.

Any ideas in the future how to deal with this?

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How to deal with what? An approach?

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u held eye contact for 20 secs? is that how its supposed to be done?!

You presented three options. The only real difference between the three options is the style that you open the set with, right? So I assume your question was asking which style you should have taken?

Looking at the situation, I would say that the main problem was that you didn't open a set that was waiting for you to come in. You had already negged the girl, so you were in a position to start gaming her, and you didn't.

When you neg an HB like that, you have to engage her and start DHV-ing, or you will loose her attraction. Now, all that girl will have to remember you by is that you make comments about her for her to overhear- that's it.

Next time, follow up on opportunities- that's the lesson in this story.

As far as which style you should use... that's up to you. All three would've worked nicely. Although, if it were me, I would've flicked her the business card. From your description, you seem to be pretty confident with making bold moves, so I think you could have pulled it off by doing something cocky, like tossing a card her way.

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