Hey people need some feed back, convo included. i messaged a girl on facebook but now im a lil stuck as to where to go from here. i didnt think she hooked well from the opener to get an email address so i kept the convo going a little. tell me what you think and where you would go from here. thanks



Subject: Are you wearing a wig?

Or is that your real hair?

HER: No its not a wig. Half of it is real! cheeky,lol!

ME: I was just curious. Don't worry it looks alright. (saying it looks alright normally gets a better response than it looks nice i feel...plus its a little neg 2)

While I have your attention, I need a female's prespective on something......Say, this guy is dating this girl, and she goes out with her friends, has a few drinks and ends up kissing a random guy at the bar.....Would you consider this cheating?


HER:It looks hot actually, bout alright lol!
I would say its cheating but if it was only a kiss, its not that bad. Does this guy happen 2 be u? (is it good she asks if its me?)

ME:Interesting...okay, let me ask you this......Take the same scenario, but this time the girl kisses another girl, and lets say she does this almost every time she goes out.....would you consider that cheating?

ps...no its not me miss half my hair is real (thats my nick name for you from now on) :-p hope you like it


HER: Have you made these questions your self? or is it some kinda mind twister!??

I guess it is classed as cheating, but i dont think its as bad from a mans perspective, some men may like it!!

And no, im not really feelin that nick name. Sure you could come up with somethin better than that!

ME :well, this is a situation that my friend Chris is in. He has been dating this girl for about 6 months and he really likes her. and then she tells him that she kisses girls all the time. he's not really sure how he feels about it.

on one hand, he thinks its hot lol, but on the other, he fears that he can't satisfy her and that they will never get more serious. my opinion, I think she should have been more upfront with him from the beginning. i'm big on honesty. if you establish the relationship as casual then its fine, if you get what i mean. what nick name would u like?


HER: She does'nt sound very serious about the relationship if you ask me.
You can call me senorita ;o) Oh yeah, thought id ask you if you pluck your eyebrows? (I.O.I?) since you wanna ask about hair n that, lol!

I consider myself very creative actually, not bein big headed or anythin )! Are you creative?? [/b]

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'You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else.' Albert Einstein

yeah good job, you need to keep the jokes up...

for example: whoa wait a minute there, you're bringing out the personal questions! of course i pluck my eyebrows -- i like the idea of a bald forehead!

something like that i suppose...

you are definatly going strong at this one.. seems like you have her hooked.. i would go into one of the survey routines, or into a "creative gambit" to see how creative she really is

keep it up

You're doin pretty good. It was a good idea not to respond to the 'is it you' and 'is this a mind twister' shit. The best thing you can do at this point is not write her for awhile, maybe one or two more to try and end it on a super high note. Once that high note is reached, just STOP for a few days.

my cousin went on my fbook and sent this message to several girls. the subject was "killer pic" and the message read "you seem pretty interesting... i'd like to know more".... needless to say none of them responded to it, is there any way to turn that around into something with quality?? i was thinking something to the effect of apologizing for the thoughtless message my cousin decided to write, then ending with "although im sure its not the worst message anyones ever sent you." any thoughts?

i wouldn't worry about what he sent to them.. there are hundreds of thousands of girls on facebook.. i am sure that a couple wont hurt.. lol..

just forget them and move on

killer pic is also a compliment...using a neg works much much much better

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'You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else.' Albert Einstein

Here are all of the messages between her and I:

Me
were u at hardrock like 2 nights ago? i think sunday night?? by the food court....

Girl
May 28 at 2:12am
no... i am new in town...

Me
June 17 at 12:53am
oh ok....i barley use facebook...do you have aim?...im Raj321 on it...

Girl
June 18 at 1:07am
no... unfortunately i don't use aim too often... u shud get on facebook more often

Me
June 24 at 5:01am
thats ashame, since i dont use facebook often...how do u suppose we can solve this lil dilemma?

Girl
June 26 at 1:36am
i don't know... how bad do u wanna talk??

Me
June 26 at 3:05am
i only wanna talk if ur interesting and u know how to be silly...u got it in u?..the real question is how bad do u wanna talk??

Girl
June 27 at 2:12am
lol.. well, there is only one way to find out, isn't there??

Me
July 2 at 8:05am
there are probably many ways to find out, but since i am drunk right now, im gonna assume that we would have to speak to each other...my number is ##########...whats urs?...and dont give me the number of a big black guy named tyrone...i dont feel like getting beat up...

Girl
July 3 at 2:39am
lol... how do u know tyrone...lol... well, not so fast sweety...hehehehe... ure gonna have to work a little harder than that...lol

n e way, what so u do for work??

Me
July 3 at 3:14am
wait a sec, i thought u were after me?...look, im a one woman type of guy and i dont like getting used and abused...well, only by tyrone, but thats a special case..tyrone and i go waaaay back...back to prison...we kinda lost touch though...
anyway, i was working in parks and recreation for the government, basically running sports and education related programs for all age groups but mostly for kids....i stopped that after 3 yrs and im currently a butt-double for famous actors...im sure thats turning u on...what about u?...work? fun? etc...

Girl
July 3 at 11:16pm
lol.. wow... i like a humorous guy...lol... well, i like to travel, shop, and watch movies for fun.... S for my work, I have my own biz and i work directly with a privately owned multimillion $ ecommerce firm... i am positioned as a senior BPA... what we do is manage and analyze million $ web businesses... i network w/ a lot of young millionaires.... lol... u must think i'm some kind of geek... hehehehe..

Me
July 4 at 3:50am
u know u are causing me to use facebook more often..i dont know if i can handle this lifestyle change, but i like challenges in life, so it's on!...so u told me ur position, but u didnt tell me what u do...u analyze million $ web businesses, how so?...what is that supposed to mean..ur definitely a geek, a cool one though, if thats possible...tell me more...by the way, how come i havent seen u around at one of my parties or somewhere else...

Girl
July 4 at 8:34pm
lol... well... at the end, it is u that makes the decision...hehehehe... so.. i can conclude that u look forward to talking to me...hehehe.. am i correct??lol.. welli don't know if u'll understand what i'm saying, but here u go... i do that by handling any information system protocols and connecting them to outlets through e-commerce... lol... it's much simpler than it sounds... expansion is pretty rapid and I am also responsible for bringing people in...lol...

well, that's nice of u sweety...hehehe.... well sweety, i am new to the area, originally from S.C...

Me
July 6 at 6:32am
when i asked u about ur job,i meant for u to tell me about it...in English! ....i get it though...somewhat...maybe u can explain it to me better over the phone, that is, if ur comfortable with that now that i feel like we kinda bonded a bit...let me know...otherwise we can continue this chat thing and maybe one day have an online wedding in a chat room...

Girl
July 6 at 11:51pm
lol.... it's not as complicated as it sounds...lol... u know how the professional world is, make stuff that's simple sound complicated on purpose...lol... hey, can u do me a favo... in this age of internet, i would not be surprised if that did happen...lol... was just browsing ure profile, tell me about Duke...

Me
July 7 at 3:15am
yes, i know how u silly professionals are sometimes...i used to work in the professional world too, but i needed a change...im not very political...what was the favor?...and about duke...hes a bostom terrier...got him when he was 12 weeks old, now hes 3 1/2 yrs old...words cant describe how amazing he is...youll see if u ever meet him...im assuming ur a dog lover too?

Girl
July 9 at 1:51am
lol... yeah... i hear ya... well, my client just popped up a new project and is looking for some people who wanna make extra $1000-$1500/ month working about 10-15 hours/ week on internet?? Would u or anyone u know be interested?? they have to have a good personality and be sharp-minded.... oh..really?? wow...so u pretty much watched it grow up, huh?? that's awesome... yeah i have a Labrador back in S.C... i watched him growing up too..

Me
July 9 at 2:54am
yes i am very very interested, as long as i dont have to make a gay porn site, i'm in...seriously though, i would like to know what the job entails...im currently not working, was planning on possibly teaching in the fall though....i have my bachelors in business admin(majors-finance/mis) and my masters in education...i just realized i made this message into a job interview..haha...let me know more about it...u have my number, i wont bite, unless u want me too...otherwise message me the info...im going to canada thursday and coming back sunday night though, so let me know....

Girl
July 10 at 12:57pm
lol...hehehehe... sure... i will put u intouch with my client, who knows the description, much better than myself...lol.. wow... i'll try to put them online tonight... what r u going to Canada for?? sounds like fun...

Me
July 10 at 1:21pm
i feel like we are bonding...tell me something interesting about u...i see u like "family guy"...u just gained two brownie points in my book...and im going to Canada for my best friend's bachelor party...u should come...

Girl
July 13 at 3:00am
lol... hehehe... well, I like to watch a lot of movies...lol... yeah... family guy is funny as heck... i luv it... cool... when do u leave?? sounds exciting... when is it?

Me
July 15 at 11:45pm
hey i just got back from Canada...was supposed to get back sunday night but i got delayed cuz of the storm in ATL, so i got back today...the trip was awesome...Niagra Falls was amazing..by the way, a rep from that company u told me about called me on Thursday night while I was at the airport, I told him I would be back Monday and he said he would call to schedule an appointment to meet with someone about the job u were telling me about, but he didnt call..at least I didnt get any call or message from him...I still am interested though and if you need me to forward u a resume, I will, but I still dont know anything about the position...i'll try this one more time...give me a call, not just for the job info, but because it will also be nice to speak to the person Ive been emailing now for the last few weeks...(my phone number here)

Girl
Today at 2:05am
oh.. really?? how was it?? did u take a lot of pics?? lol.. oh cool... wow... looks like they must've filled all the positions... i'll let u know if they will be opening up more units... they should pretty soon... cause the expanision is moving pretty rapidly....no.. won't need ure resume at the moment...

lol... aww... that is so sweet of u babe... but as good as u look in ure "James Bond" pic, lol... if i call u, then I will have to call all the other guys that ask me sweety...lol... i gotta be a fair girl... maybe u gotta be a girl to understand... i dunno how to put it.. :'(


What do I say to that?

I stopped reading after this, its comes over you try to hard. You are talking to a stranger and already SPAM your aim...

Thanks, that didnt help me at all...anyone have any useful advice for me?

I don't know if you could salvage this. In my opinion, you should have just kept the convo up until SHE asked for your number or AIM. Other than that, I'd say your online game is pretty good. You have a knack for making jokes and spinning words around

I know this post is old, and you probably don't need help with this anymore.. but hey, I like problem solving, so here goes. In your situation I would have said something like:

"Yeah, a girl can't let anybody think she's falling for them, can she? That would make things too easy for the boys. lol"

And then I would have just have kept on talking for a bit. Kept trying to get some DHV (basically telling her in an offhand way how great my life is) and ask some more half-silly half-serious questions about her job. And when I felt we were back on a higher note I would have "went away" for a couple of days again. And after that I would have tried to slowly escalate the flirting again... but NEVER EVER asked her about her number or AIM again. You've blown the initiative on that one. From this point the more you ask the more you sound like an obsessed creep.

My two cents.