I was flirting with a girl at work today, and was making good progress.

She was playing with her hair and laughin at my jokes. Just natural conversation no routines.

Then my colleague (a girl), came over and said 'Stop flirting with the pretty girl I need you to come and help me with blah blah blah"

I had no idea how to respond to the fact that she had just made her the prize "Pretty girl", and made the fact that I was flirting explicit.



What should I have said?

First off, if I were you I wouldn't sarge at work as much as I can. I know so, I've #closed dozens of times in front of customers and the boss, and my co-workers. Fortunately enough they don't know of my double-life, hehe.

But anyway, regarding to IOIs...

DO NOT READ IOIs IN ISOLATION

just because she does one gesture does not mean she is into you, you need to read in clusters. here's what would possibly be a good sign.

- Good -

Twirls hair
Exposes wrist towards you
Lead foot pointed towards you
smiles with crows feet on the eyes
pucks lips
fondles cylindrical objects, or necklace

These are all good indicators and as a good body language reader, you need to look at things in clusters. This is how to determine FALSE IOIs.

Reframing would be bad at the situation. WORK. Don't put PUA in front of that, it's your livelihood. You've got a job to do. Also regarding that, please put more detail. I can't give you enough advice unless you put more detail into what happened FR status.

Hi Zato,

Thanks for your reply. Not sure why you think work isn't a great place to flirt with girls, it is.


I'm really just looking for what I could have said in reply.

Work can be a fantastic place to meet woman but the problems arise when you are a PUA and go from woman to woman. This can lead to a bad rep with the people you have to work with. Trust me, I've been there and had to leave my last job over a psycho ex who wouldn't stop causing trouble.

I'd say take it slowly and only do something if you really like the girl and see a future with her... not just for a lay.

Any suggestions as to what I could have said in response (see original post).

why do u let it affect you, why not just laugh and say in a boyish charm, "why, are you jealous? do you want me to start flirting with you?"

Thanks russianguy.

At the time I just smiled and winked.


But this is exactly the kind of response I wanted, thanks again.

Peace

I dont think you should get too C&F at work
and I dont think the "her the prize "pretty girl" is a big deal

Honestly I would probably have given her a look and said,

"hey...I'm working here. there are important things going on that you don't understand, complex work algorithms and stuff, though I understand that if you need me to help you I'd better come and help you out."

"Look at the girl and say what are you gonna do, this is why I don't get free weekends"

Though I second the notion of not gaming at work...

at some point you will be writing a post that says....

"so I'm kinda in a spot of bother at work"

Jealous co workers male and female trying to get you fired

Customer complaints.

branded a slut

Ive read them all on numerous forums.

Take advice and game in other peoples workplaces. Go visit them at their work and game their coworkers it's soo much fun.

I wish I hadn't put that it was at work.

And, I'm not hung up on anything.

I only want suggestions as to how to blow out the comment above for future reference.

Like Mystery says when someone said something he didn't have a response to, 'Why didn't I know? Why didn't I prepare? So I went home and thought of an answer. The next time I was asked that question in the field, I recited...'

And I shall recite "Why? Are you jealous? Do you want me to start flirting with you?"

Thanks again to Russianguy1 for his sweet suggestion.

Cool man as long as you're happy it's all good.

AFC Adam,

Never ever pull women at work!
I will pull women everywhere EXCEPT work.

The reason being work (unless you work at Burger King) has it own dynamic- which is very much like a political system.
People notice more about you than you think.

From what you've said it was a mere sign of IOIs- but so what. I get on average 20 sets of IOI's per day from women at work and they knew about my PUA lifestyle- why should I hide it?
Its because Im not sarging them!

From my experience the only relationshops that work are those between the Boss and his Fiancee of whom he has had a long term, commited monogmous relationship with- in full view of the public eye.

So GET BACK TO WORK!

I guess work is what people want to talk about so...
Flirting at work is good.
Absolutely everyone does it.

I don't know where you guys work but, here tons of people are in and out of relationships all the time. It's standard. This is a pretty chilled out place to work.

In fact I only visit this site from work PCs. When I'm not at work I don't use PCs, because I've had enough of them.

In the 2 years I've worked here I've been with 12 of the girls. Some that people know about, some they don't. I don't care if people know, because I'm happy in myself. Being thought of as a slag, is what is known as pre-selection (i.e. a good thing).

We have over 1,000 staff and everyone here knows who I am, and what I'm like. They love me and I love them. It has helped me to get further in this business. The idea that I wouldn't pull a HB10 just because I work with her is mental.

I know it was no big deal that I didn't have the best response I just wanted a better one in case it happened again. The girl in question got a bonus the other day and she took me out for sushi to celebrate.

I can't imagine what kind of problems people have had with jealous girls etc. People don't cause trouble for each other here. If anyone did they wouldn't last very long at all.

I live and work in the UK, Manchester to be exact. I don't know if geography makes a difference in what's acceptable in the work place. What do you think?

AFCAdam, I love your suggestions too. I must have been posting at the same time as you, so didn't see your post before I replied. Peace and that.


To everyone who has posted here I'd like to say 'Although I might not agree with your opinions, I love you all'.

Exactly. Don't shit where you eat. All kinds of problems can occur when you hook up with a colleague. Bosses will get jealous, co-workers will hate on you, and your work life could be made miserable. If you still want to do it then do so at your own risk.

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