A girl is really into me because i didnt give her all my attention which everyone else apparently did. Also, i told her that i gave my love to someone else, which made her want me more.

she just made a temporary move to another city and texted me.

HB: "some people, like me, are worth waiting for. and i hope that you crossed your fingers to whoever you gave ur heart to."

How do i respond to this? its such a loaded statement. i dont want to seem like i would break off my current relationship and wait just for her (which i wouldnt). i also dont want to push to hard. any suggestions on how to respond?

What do you want from her and what are your rules with the current relationship?

I don't think ignoring it would be a bad move. She's obviously caught up on you and not replying is neutral enough as to not get you in trouble but will probably make her want you more (cat string esque).

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As far as what i want from the HB, i want a fuck buddy
I have the feeling that she is a pimp though (18 yrs old) and has alot of orbiters.

Also, this is what she texted me beforehand

HB: miss me?
me: just wasn't meant to be... everything is against us. maybe in a different life the stars will align. until then...
HB: "some people, like me, are worth waiting for. and i hope that you crossed your fingers to whoever you gave ur heart to."

i have the fear of becoming an orbiter.

Just playfully close the deal, apply the $100 BF destroyer to yourself, but when qualifying, qualify on looks, and talk about other girls.

This ensures that she see's that it is not an exclusieve relationship you want and that your interested for sexual reasons primary and emotional reasons secondry.

but i used the girlfriend thing to kinda push her away though...

I thought you wanted her? Don't worry about what you previously did, if she questions you, just say you changed your mind, show your spontanuity.

i was trying to push-pull. i just feel that if i pull, i will be just another chump. basically, i dont know the limits of this push-pull thing.

You do realise that eventually you want to have sex with her. Qualifying is a decent part of this game.

However you can tell she is hooked on you, their isn't much need to push anymore... ...PULL PULL PULL.

Start qualifying and kino escalating.

i dont know how to pull w/o seeming needy. also, i have always had problem showing/demonstrating the way i feel to a girl. because a) i feel so awkward doing it and b) its my to protect my ego in case i am rejected.

just msg something like, im going to x on x you can meet me there and show me why you are perfect for me

Oh good lordy...
Then why the hell did you introduce the context of "love" into the situation in the first place?

Don't go past "like" when you're gaming potential FBs. Manage expectations. You're mistake was even bringing up the notion of "love" when you said that you gave your love to someone else. That made her want your love and that's the frame she's playing from.

Now you know better for next time.

I think its okay and actually very effective to incorporate "emotional" statements that make the girl feel special to get what you want. It's like a SOI but something an AFC would say. It assumes rapport and attraction and your giving the girl false validation. It's false because you don't actually feel these emotions. This is what you would call "Pull".

Now I know a lot of AFCs do this and fail, but since you don't actually feel these "emotional" statements, the other parts of it won't follow i.e. neediness, attachment, ect. Infact it'll come off strange to her since you're dropping all these emotional statements but acting the complete opposite of what an AFC does i.e. cold, un-needy, confident, and seek zero validation from her. This is "push". She will start to work for you.

This is called mind fucking the target. You are feeding a certain thought and making her work in a frame you are setting up to get the easiest lay. Start shit testing her and creating jealousy plotlines after "emotional" statements such as "Not many people can give me that warm fuzzy feeling inside ". Push/pull in its simplified form.

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