I see your examples of what you've said above. What things have you said that have flipped her attraction switches, or have most of your conversations just built comfort mostly. If you haven't already you need to do things in your next conversation to build attraction.

Such as: Bantering, DHV short stories, Small Negs, False Disqualifiers, etc. Remember that you are the prize!!!

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Dude... its been 5 days now with no response back... (which is unusual considering her replies before were within minutes. She has been online pretty well every day of those 5 days too...

I think its time to send a reframing message? But im not sure what. Im not sure if I should go with the "Oh my god, you'll never guess what happened to me today....." what do you think?

hey im just woundering if u could help me with my internet proflie

ill paste below what iv put, but i feel wussy-radar tells the girls im a wussy, is there any way i can revamp this, or to be honest should i start all over?

*************************************************************Would say im easy going always up for a laugh, i try and pack my sense of humour where ever i go. Really enjoy going out be it bowling/clubbing or just a walk.

i always try and live my life by, treat people how you want to be treated, and try not to be judgmental.

im a sensible when i need to be, always have my wits about me, you never know who is out there!

I would say im kinda the romantic type of guy.

Im not a pushy guy, or stuckup i can get along with any type of person apart from your street coner chav's.

I like the company of mature woman , as they are mature minded like my self, and there is no mind games what so ever, hate mind games!

I spose at the end of the day, im looking for a girl who i can trust, share secrets with huddle up to at night, take out places have fun day in day out be there for them.

If i wink you that clearly means im intrested in what you have written in your profile, so if your intrested in me send me a message.

Ran out of things to type to be honest, ill update it when feeling a bit more focused.
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see reading it back, its what i am but is it what girls want?

cheers in ur time to replie to this post!

Manic.

Manic,

I like what you had to say, I'd just reword the thing a little bit.

"I'm always laughing! My laid back personality works well with my joking nature. I pack my sense of humor with me wherever I go to enjoy life! When life calls I'm out clubbing, bowling, or just a good walk.

I think it's important to treat people by the old golden rule of how you wan to be treated, and try not to be judgemental. Call me old fashioned but it's the way it should be! That sense of chilvary extends to my romantic nature as well.

Lastly, you need to understand I'm social. I like going out and meeting all types of new people. There is rarely anyone I can't get along with.

I'm looking for the great company of a mature woman, as they are mature and open minded like myself. There is no need to play mind games. Does anyone else hate that stuff?

Like most people I value someone I can trust, share secrets huddled up at night, and have fun day in day out.

So if you get a wink from you then you know I'm interested. If you like what you're reading then click over there and send me a message!!!"

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Hi J... did you accidentley skip over my last message?

Yeah I guess I missed it. Thanks for pointing my attention to it. Basically, yeah the "Oh my god..." to reopen the conversation would be a good move to see what happens. With this much time between communicating it's going to be tough, but you never know. Send her the message if there is no reply in a few days write her off.

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hey j i forgot all about this section..i sent you a message threw yahoo.but i saw on your field report #92 i think? well ne wayz you had mentioned craigslist personals,i have one as well how ever i always get the ugly or deformed chics messaging me..i cant send any messages on it tho cus for sum reason out look exspress wont work for me but i have my incoming mail going threw yahoo....well basically my question is this...what did you do to get that hb 8 you had in the report and ne hb for that matter to respond? I'm just confused on this one..i know if i could send messages it would be totally different but since i cant what do you think i should put or suggest? anything would help me greatly...thanks j


jamie v

Since you specifically asked about that pickup. I actually logged everything I said to her starting with the exact ad I used. I will send you a pm with the information.

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I recieved it and thanks again...You will find a message waiting on that forum...thanks again J...

Not a problem, glad I could help!!!

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Sorry didn't see that part.. I deleted the convo but thanks for the feedback.

HigherGame...I specifically asked that entire IM conversations not be posted on here. Secondly, I'm here to answer some questions...what is your question?

I can understand the limitations of being a new member but you can post this in the "Newbie" section somewhere.

Since you posted it here, I will say this. You got her # as an end result which is good, congratulations. However, you started out by pure comfort building talking about where she lives and stuff like this. I'm not sure how hot this girl is or anything like that but a lot of girls get bored with this stuff. 95% of the men who approach her and talk to her are going to talk to her about what she does, where she's from, etc, etc. It's the same old boring shit, be unique! You threw in some bantering here and there. There just isn't much attraction being built or DHV spikes. However, there is comfort and rapport.

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Fellow Members,

For the next week or so I'm going to be taking a break from the community. Everything gets quit a bit overwhelming at times and I need to prioritize some things in my life before I go any further. At first, I was about to leave the community and dismantle all my websites and stuff. The stress has been mounting up and getting to me. I am not entirely sure if I am going to leave this behind or not. I figure the best thing I can do at the moment before making an irrational decision is to take a break. So if I don't respond to your posts, text messages, IMs, emails, phone calls, or other requets please understand.

I will let you guys know my decision when I have made it.

Peace,

J. Smooth

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Been speaking to this girl over e-mail, and did the cube on her...

Gave her my feedback on it and she got really interested, and started asking loads of questions e.g. what would it have meant if the horse was white etc.... I thought it would be AFC to just answer all of her question, so i thought I'd try a little push-pull with her. So i said...

"well I don't know if you're ready for all that knowledge yet!!!

I'll tell you what, I'll give you a chance.....we both know you're gorgeous...but beauty is common. I mean if you look around you see beauty everywhere...How about you tell me three things about you [besides your looks] that separate you from the crowd...

If I like you're answers I'll tell you more on the cube "

to which she responds:

"Beauty is common is it? I beg to differ up here! lol.

I feel like im in a job interview! If you dont want to tell me then i dont mind. But im not selling myself. What i think sets me out from the crowd may be different to the reality. So i will leave it at that. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and all that..."

Feel I should probably bust her on not playing along, but think I may have already pushed her enough....Suggestions??

so i messaged this hot young blonde who sounded pretty intelligent and is going to study zoology with

"hey you seem pretty intelligent, something of a rarity on here, but then again what's zooligy? lol "

trouble is she doesnt seem to have recognised I was making fun of her mispelling cos she replied with a curveball of

"lol is that an honest question? its the study of all things cool, lizards an tigers ect hows u? x "

notice she's now mispelled 'etc' and uses txtspeak aka u and missed out the 'd' of and. seems a bit dizzy.

its my natural instinct to want to neg her some more on the spelling

say like

I hope you're better with animals than u are at spelling as you might find yourself getting eaten by those tigers!

but Im not sure if thats good or not. I'm not very sure of myself when communicating with people of apparently lesser intelligence as my strengths are in my wit and turn of phrase.