Hey mates,

New to this forum. I'll try to keep this one short and sweet. I've been working with this girl for over a year. She's a HB8. One day we're at the same bar and she sees me and decides to leave a drink at my table for me when I'm in the pisser. She later approached me and we end up talking that night and I get her digits. I texted her a few times but she never really seemed interested so I just left things alone. The second time I see her out in the bar(1 week later) with her friends I approached and that night we ended up getting pissed drunk and made out. The next fews days I would send her the odd text but she wouldn't really respond so I thought she was feeling buyers remorse. Next week same thing happened. I saw her at the bar again....we got pissed drunk and made out again. She revealed to me that night that she really likes me but there's a problem in her personal life and I know she doesn't have a boyfriend.

So to make a long story short. What do you think is going on in this one's head? It's been about a month since we last made out. I've seen her in the bar a few times and we've talked and joked around...and sent the odd text message back and forth but she doesn't reply to me all the time. I caled her up three days ago and we talked a bit and I made her laugh and shit. At the end of the convo she said she was really happy I called..but I haven't heard anything back from her since that last call. Should I just let things be until she decided to call me or text me?

Any input would be appreciated guys
Cheers

Lesbian.

The personal life side of things could be so much. How old are you guys?

To me it just sounds like she has options - she likes you when you're there, but can pre-occupy herself when you aren't. I would suggest wait for her to re-initiate contact, but don't wait like a loser - get on with things and have your own options.

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Sounds like one of those girls that likes to get drunk and fuck around, but is otherwise of no use. Move on, or fuck her when you're partying together and that's all it will end up being. She's messed up, don't bother with a relationship man.

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Thanks again mates. I think she's a bit of a weirdo. We're both 22 and I thought my texting has been pretty solid but I could be wrong. She's told me she noticed me before but never had the courage to come up and talk to me. This could be because about 6 months ago I was fooling around with one of her coworkers but that ended. I left my job for a few months and when I came back she initiated this all by buying me that first drink.

I'm thinking of doing 1 of 3 things:

1) Initate one last text message
2) Forget the weirdo
3) Start working on another one of her coworkers just to make her jealous

What do you guys think?
Cheers

Texting has proven not to work, don't bother, wait till you see her in person again. Texting is something to be done when you have established rapport. Obviously you have her phone number, so why haven't you called her instead of texting? Man up and call, or wait till you see her, but forget texting until serious rapport is established.

Go with 3, just don't be sloppy about it and you can use that as pre-selection to hook up with her. Don't do it to make her jealous, do it to show her what's she's missing and that when a girl actually responds, that she can have you.

If those fail, then forget her.

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Hey thanks for the tips. Before I read your post I got impatient and texted her a neg and she hasn't responded yet. I think my problem might be I'm OVER negging her. Do you think it's wise to give her a call maybe tomorrow or should I just forget about her completely? I think if I call I might seem to needy.

What do you guys think?

Cheers

Don't Make anymore first contact, if she contacts you fine. Or just let it be and go pursue other women, she is either a flake or likes the attention, dont develope one-itis for this kind of woman it can only lead to heart break.