Hi Danny,
I Read your post, and it seems to me like you needed to take a little more control - to show her that you're alpha.
You sound like a really interesting and fun guy, she obviously enjoys this about you. I think if you're with a girl on a 'date' or day 2 you must escalate kino to an intimate level. This way she knows what you want, and you know whether she wants the same.
I think your mutual friend may have been teasing you a bit

. - I could be wrong though. Either way you need to find out if she's interested. Do a search for 'Compliance Tests' to check how to do this.
I'd suggest keeping it cocky funny, when contacting her again. Here are some great ones:
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Other than that, always remember that there are almost 7 Billion people in the world right now. The supply of intelligent, beautiful, sexy, passionate girls is HUGE. If worse comes to worse you'll just have to go out and get yourself another one.
Peace, Buddy
LoveJunkie