Hey bros and maybe a couple sisters out there, this is going to be my first field report so I'll do my best.

First of all I'm a natural trying to transition into a more complete and structured PUA. I wouldn't even call myself a PUA yet but anyway I have been on a nice streak in the last couple weeks probably due to trying to get back into sarging and reading the Game and Mystery Method.

I got a girl on a date that works down the street at a popular bar by going in one morning and having breakfast. My social proof down there is great as we know everyone and management and us get along great and we know all the bartenders, the girls kiss our cheeks its very very solid.

So I got her out by asking her if she wanted to go check out a new restaurant with a friend of mine and a girl who works there. The girl couldn't get off, so I said, "we could still go", and she said yes. Kind of had a feeling the other girl would be working but even if she didn't it would have been a good chance for more attraction and shift into comfort I thought.

We went a couple days later, had a great time, then later on saw a movie in the park, had some drinks, tons of cuddling in the park, making out throughout the night, it was just such a great time. So we go back to her place at the end of the night and things get real heavy- and a lot of that was due to drinking but it was all good natured because we had a lot of attraction when sober. So I got to "third" and even played a little "just the tip" LOL but it really was. Sloppy hooking up ensued througout the night.

Next morning I leave and go to work, and we agree to see a movie tonight. We saw each other here and there since this bar is basically my Cheers but it'd been 3 days since the last time and things were going great.

Saw the film tonight, had a good time, walked her home, it was raining so I asked if I could come in for a few and dry off. She let me, and so we go up. We start hooking up and I tell her how sexy she looks soaking wet but I felt a little anxiety and acted a little corny. What can I say, that's just how I am. So anyway we're hooking up, but when I go to take the top off, she tells me we got a little crazy the other night and we need to slow it down alittle, but that she wants to get together again. She also said she didn't trust herself so I took that as a sign that she wants to, but likes me and wants to take it slow. You can't give away all the goods for free I guess, right? If she's not too tired after work tomorrow- she gets out at 10 but has Tuesday off- she wants to come by and watch a movie. I think that her coming here to watch a movie that late is a big statement on comfort and trust?

I actually had this feeling. I can read others pretty well and knew she was a pretty sweet girl, but going off the Mystery Method, 7 solid hours should be all you need. Now I know I've been working it for more than that, so if someone could give me a couple thoughts I'd appreciate it a lot. I'm basically in the box, but I think all it needs is some more comfort. I don't doubt it'll happen, but maybe you guys could help me make sure it goes the right way from here out.

-Bronco

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"I'm like a dog chasing a car; if I ever caught it I don't think I'd know what to do with it" - Heath Ledger as The Joker

nice....30 views, not one pua has any advice? thanks man

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-Bronco

"I'm like a dog chasing a car; if I ever caught it I don't think I'd know what to do with it" - Heath Ledger as The Joker

7 hours is an average. Don't worry about that - you're learning.

You faltered at the LMR, but again... learning curve. This will give you kind of a good base actually next time you guys meet:

Get to something close to the stage you were at when she stopped you, and stop yourself. Tell her that you guys are moving so quickly and it's making your head spin (a spin on the same BS) and then step back a base (I don't understand basis - and please don't explain it!). You can repeat this if you need to. Then get to that stage and continue through.

What happens is that she feels like you're on a similar level, and she doesn't need to resist as you have self-control. She will feelis that you guys wanted to take things slow but it seemed so right in the moment, or something equally cheesey.

If that fails, fall back on the freeze-out.

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I'm a winner - I am going to win.

She wants to give you another chance to seduce her. You just hit LMR before because the rationalization in her head was, "If I sleep with him too soon, I'm a slut. I want to fuck him, but I must control myself because society tells me to. It will probably be OK with ONE more date, though..."

Infamous, I'm going to try taking a step back. Cat theory, I like it. Good idea. I just need to find the self-control to do it.

Chief, I think you're right, because she said a couple things like "I want to, but I don't want to move too fast. But when we do, you're not gonna be able to get enough"

She's a sweet girl but she's got a body built for sex. I really want to hit that. I'll keep you all posted.

Side note, that night, she told me I'm supposed to "leave her wanting more."

Also, tonight, I got off the train, hit the bar real quick in the afternoon thinking I'd only be in there for a minute but my ride was late, I don't want to look too clingy, but this is the downside of hooking up with someone in your local spot. I hope it doesn't get weird.

Other side note, later tonight when she got out at 10, it's now midnight and I've not heard from her. But I didn't go trying to contact her either. I'll let her make the next move and play it cool

Thanks for your help and I'll give another field report when there's something new to write about.

-Bronco

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"I'm like a dog chasing a car; if I ever caught it I don't think I'd know what to do with it" - Heath Ledger as The Joker

UPDATE:

So last night my roommate and different friends of both of ours got together and went out in town.

I got a text from her saying "I'm bartending, come down." I hit her back with "no way man, that place is beat." I show up a couple minutes after my friends, because I ran across the street to go get a couple lolipops- this is an inside thing between us. I left one in the check for her when she gave me the bill. And I left a fat tip. (since she barely charged me for anything)

I've got hb6 with me- but if smiles/personality can raise value she gets 7.5. Purely aesthetic shes 6. No chest. I found that out later. So I'm talking on and off with her and say before we leave that the after party at my place is happening and come back. She's like, I'm working for another hour after we close.

Felt good to have the interactin. I did not talk to her for a couple days. Last time I was in there I was smashed hitting on every 35 yr old I could find. I'm 23. bartenders loved it. I wanna bang half the bartending staff. I am nailing one of them already. Few more to go.

I'm not calling her, let's see if she hits me up. Plus I've got the train girl to try and get a date with now.

My head hurts.

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-Bronco

"I'm like a dog chasing a car; if I ever caught it I don't think I'd know what to do with it" - Heath Ledger as The Joker

i might be getting one itis. i need to stop it- i have a date wednesday with hb6- shes sweet but i think it might be more of a practice run. i am fairly certain i can run into this bartender in town, we both got dui's and are not going anywhere soon. called bartender tonight and spoke a little after getting fed up with text msg'ing. let her know i was having a bbq saturday and she said she might be able to get off and would try. i dont really know, if u read my quote you'll understand that i cant live without the challenge. but i think i could f close the hb6 im fairly certain of it. what do you guys think....


fyi she bartends at the place we go to all the time..i havent been down there since friday, i was thinking of going down there because i dont like sitting around im very social...this is why we should have never gone out because of the tension...however, i think teh tension is only in myself- if i act like it doesnt matter, it won't and she'll probably either be more attracted or act cool about it. i love how articulating thoughts on here helps make you udnersstand it better yourself....is it clingy to go down there solo? it would not have been if i never took her out. fuck.

thanks

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-Bronco

"I'm like a dog chasing a car; if I ever caught it I don't think I'd know what to do with it" - Heath Ledger as The Joker

Honestly, you've confused the living hell out of me. How many women are you trying to close in the same joint at the same time?

Bartender girl
Train girl
HB6.5 who you took to the bar
Other Bartender

Can you come up with more distinct names for them?

That last post was not very clear...

Anyway, here is what happened, and I am not proud of it, but hopefulyl others will learn.

Let me just say, alcohol is not good, it's not your true game. It gives false confidence and is a crutch. Allow me to elaborate.

I went in the bar the other night after I got off the train, my roommate is out of town so I just went straight over to watch the baseball game. Bartender was working. I said hello ordered a drink and opened the paper and got right on the phone and called my cousin for 20 min. Basically had a noticeably fun convo, ignored her, after I hung up , the bartender asked me if I wanted to eat dinner.

I did eat with her, shot a few negs, made a call to set up a sick birthday party, but I came off too cocky and probably even DLV but trying to be cool. I was different when I mt her and I know it, because I didnt even like her.

So anyway, she got off early and gave me a half ass goodbye.

I proceeded to get fucking hammered. I dont know why. I went to another bar, got fucking toasted, ended up running into that HB6 I was trying to game. Got kicked out, and she called and canceled our date the next morning. Honest to God I was going to cancel on her anyway, but her doing it to me stung.

I stumbled BACK to the bartender's bar, she was in there socially with friends, I was fucking smashed,....

Next morning, I call her, leave a msg, nothing back.. I realize I was too messed up to know what I said, but Im sure I have the value of my front door right now.

I dont even know if this is fixable hopefulyl u guys will learn.

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-Bronco

"I'm like a dog chasing a car; if I ever caught it I don't think I'd know what to do with it" - Heath Ledger as The Joker