Nope I didnt get a black eye from my date but...

I got one after being blindsided sticking up for some poor guy in the street getting pushed around (kind of my own fault really but hey).
And I have a third date scheduled with an HB9 in three days time.
The eye is pretty bad and I'm thinking I should re-schedule.
I've got very good rapport with this girl and I've told her about the eye (went in for the sympathy line without coming across too much of a pussy - "who would want to hit a nice guy like me!?") and we made a joke about it and how she's going to have to nurse me back to health etc.
However, in reality, we're supposed to be going to a tango dancing club and while a small mark could be a funny talking point, this just doesnt look too nice and will no doubt get looks from other people. I'm fine with that and confident enough in myself but I think it might lower my value if she percieves me to be someone that people in the room are looking at/talking about in a negative way. Don't want her to be embarrased to be with me obviously.
Or then again is there a plus side of it that I can work on?
Any advice much appreciated guys.

Thats a great story but still she sounds ok with it and tbh i woul still go. Or you could suggest something like her coming to yours and cooking you a special home made get better soon meal
If she goes for that, make her laugh by sarcastically re in acting it, and at the point you get hit over dramatise it and act like your dieing and tell her to play along would be very funny and also great way to get her emotionally involved in you then ur already at ur house so......

Just an idea

You can use the eye as a way to open and DHV...just a thought.

However, if you are going to be self conscious about it all night probably not a good idea to go.

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Not a PUA just a girl offering my opinions/advice

Good points.
What sort of ways do you think I could use it to DHV?
I'm not too self conscious about it, not enough to let it stop me being myself and I suppose I could use it for some good gags which would show a side of me that doesnt let things like this stop me from having a good time. The story itself is valid and backed up by a friend that she also knows who was with me at the time so I suppose I'm not going to come across as a jerk who's been causing trouble and I have no intentions of playing any sort of bravado card around it, more to show a more caring side.
Been trying to think of some things to make light of the situation if other people start staring. Maybe something like "hey that guy is staring over, you must have something in your teeth".
She's a good enough girl to look over the eye thing, she's not the least bit snobby like that, I think it's just I don't know if it will be too physically unattractive or if that will matter to her.
I've only ever put lips on this girl once and this is the third date.
We do however have 'wonderful chemistry' (her words).
Any more tips from others would be very welcome

Thanks!
K.

I'd be honest about the eye, as long as its told in full and in an emotive way. Let her know and then just wear sunglasses to the tango club. The main thing is to realise that if she is still going with you she doesn't care about the eye so you shouldn't feel self concious. Easier said than done though hey?

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I think that the eye would be an opener.
"hey can I ask you a question?"
" yeah"
"do you know of anything that could cover up/help/ease the swelling of my eye"
"blah blah, how did that happen? Blah blah"

Yeah, it'll be a good question for them to ask and you can play it off in so many different ways.... You could tell them a story to make you look strong etc... you could tell a funny story, you could just sorta say "it's not important" and come off as sort of mysterious.

This is THE advice you should be listening to. This is an amazing story man! You were sticking up for some poor guy on the street, throw in some details, bring it to life, make her feel like she was there and can see you sticking up for some guy and then being attacked for it. You were in the right, you were being a stand-up guy and this is a rare trait, most people would just look the other way.

Every time she looks at you, she's gonna be forced to think about how much of an amazing guy you are. Don't view this is as a bad thing that you've got a bruise, wear it as a badge of honor and be PROUD! Realise how amazing this makes you, but be humble about it at the same time. Don't walk with shame, walk with pride and hold your head up high and when anyone looks at you funny over it, don't worry about what they are thinking, just remember why it's there and know that if you explain it to them, they will clap you on the back and commend you for it.

There's so many guys on this forum that I have seen ask questions about whether fighting is a DHV or a DLV and generally speaking it is the latter, but in this case, it is a massive DHV. Fighting isn't sexy, but what you did is, don't forget it!

Good job man, you're what every real man should strive to be, honorable.

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Thanks so much for the advice guys, and for the kind comments Rye.

What a great forum!

I've posted another topic here:

here-vp140006.html#140006

which isn't about my black eye but just some questions I have on contact, push-pull, etc at this stage so if you get a chance would be great if you could advise on this too. Thanks again.