heres the scoop. ive known a girl for 2 or 3 years. were best friends, and were both very attracted to each other. we joke about sex, kino all the time, spend time with each other, i bust her balls a lot, shes actually said we should date before and a few months ago she was drunk and kissed me ( i didnt kiss back, it wasnt awkward though, it was a weird situation) hell just yesterday we were sitting next to each other watching tv and she put her hand on my inner thigh/behind the knee and started to trace her finger along it (her brother, one of my best friends, was there with us though). I get with other girls and she knows it, she gets with other guys and i know it, and i am in no way obsessed with her.

a little history about me. I have a fear of intimacy, bad. when she did these things i didnt do or say anything back because i have a hard time telling people how i feel and opening up i just kind of laughed them off at the time, but hours afterwards i was kicking myself in the ass.

me and my friends were talking the other day and this question came up, "what would you right now if the world were to end tomorrow and you knew it was gonna happen?"
and you know what came to mind? i would tell this girl how i felt and sex her up real nice like.
i came to the realization that i would regret it if nothing ever happened between us.

ive never tried getting with a girl i knew so well before. like i said were best friends and we know a lot about each other. how should i go about this? what should i say? how should i do it? sorry if i sound like an AFC, im certainly not a PUA, but i do have my fair share of women beating down my door.

Just tell her dude. The amount of missed opportunities I've had in my time with HB9s and 10s that were my friends but really wanted to be more is rediculous. There is this one HB9.5 who recently left my workplace that I could have gotten with EASILY, it was a couple of days before valentines day (this year) and I asked "so where is your fella taking you on valentines day" and she said "noone is taking me out" giving me strong eye contact, good body language and CLEARLY wanting me to say "come out with me" I chickened out and just said something stupid like "yeh I'm not going out either" 1 minute later she walked off looked dissapointed and I swiftly gave myself an immaginary punch in the face. Unfortunately I came accross the community too late to capitalize on any of these opportunities so like I said just tell her, she has already shown allot of IOIs and is quite clearly interested. Don't say it in an AFC way though just say it like she is one of many options (which she is) and that you aren't bothered about her answer either way. The worst that will happen is she'll say something like "sorry I just don't feel that way about you" no big deal, just move to the next target.

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Just run game on her like you'd just met her. Knowing her beforehand is an advantage. You're already comfortable. Echoing what I've read someone say already, increase your kino gradually, hands -> legs -> torso -> face/neck, making sure she's comfortable with each before you move on. by doing this you'll also become more confident being physical with her. Once your level of intimacy has increased enough to make it slightly more than friendly, attempt a kiss-close.

You say you have trouble with intimacy, at least expressing it. I'm guessing you mean verbally. Well, no worries there. You don't need to say it. In fact, grumbling awkwardly "I kinda really like you," could potentially lessen any attraction she has for you and you may end up worse off.

The best plan is, like I said, to run game. Try and build attraction even more, there's never any harm in that. In this case you want a build a safty net so you don't penetrate the padding you've already got should things go wrong, if you can see that image.

Whatever you do don't try and talk her into starting some official relationship with you. Makes me feel nasty all over thinking about the awkward, forced, stickyness of that kind of 'agreement'. T'ain't natural.

Make it natural.

Mega, 21
London

Frankly at this point I don't think anything needs to be said. You hang out with her a lot and I imagine that theres times when you're alone and physically close. Give her some physical IOI's like she did to you with her hand on your leg and she'll respond positively. escalate from there and you're golden. No need to open up here; I think she understands your relationship as well as you do, and by your description, she feels the same way. Just be the one to make the move.

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If my post made me appear homosexual, I want you all to know that prior to sitting down at my computer I slammed 15 shots of whiskey, went balls-deep into my woman, and recited Clint Eastwood lines for 20 minutes.

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