So basically i was at a party the other night and saw a HB8 after having a raving session we ended up dacing together i am not fully gaming yet just testing bits out here and there so i know the basic rules of the game. so as i was saying eventually i managed to sit her down and chat to me i was having a good run made her laugh until i eventually joked about her accent becuase it was all over the place which she replied "oh thats it i am leaving you now" *ouch* she said it in a joking way so of she trotted and i turned and started chatting to a friend as if it didnt matter. needless to say i didnt talk to her again that night but for future reference what should i have done?

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"....Yeah She'd Get It."

From what you told me, you kept disqualifying her, even though she qualified you and let you isolate her. From her perspective, you just came across as a jerk.

Next time qualify her, let her know you like her in some way. Kino escalate. If you're in comfort, you don't need to go back to attraction, cause she is already attracted. However, don't stay in comfort too long, this is when you steal her frame and use push/pull techniques...hence kino escalation (which is great for calibrating her).

When she walked off, she regained control of the frame. Next time it should be you to tease her and say "Oh, you're losing me now," and pretend to roll off. Your frame is to make her chase you.

I would have smiled when she said that and done some sort of kino in order to anchor her and not let her get up and go. Grab her hand and pull her back to you, if she's still sitting, put your arm around her and give her a one armed hug for a second or two and then gently push her away. It's called push/pull, look it up and you'll find some good stuff for dealing with things like this and realise that getting that response from her is actually "game on".

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Thanks guys top advice =)

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"....Yeah She'd Get It."

totally agree with the above : make kino!

The question " are u sure ? " (equally joking , while holding ,not grabbing her hand) comes to mind.

keruli

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