Hey all, thought I'd write a (big) bit about me to say hi. I'm completely new to the whole PUA thing and when I say new I mean about 10 days lol so bare with me if I get my terminology and other things wrongl.

As always there's lots of long details but to make it as short as possible.....basically I've never been ther most confident of ppl when approiaching girls but I was on a bit of a downer anyways after splitting with my long term gf.

My mate knew 2 girls who were at least 8's and sorta dragged me along with him while he was talking to them a while back. From there I took a liking to one of them and she happily talked back to me, which in my mindset then was a bit of a shock. Anyways I thought I'd try and do something about but always bottled out based on the fact i didnt think she'd be interested cos I was pretty down on myself. About 3 weeks back I met her in a club and again we talked but something felt odd and I couldn't think what. A few days later I found this site.

Over the past 2 weeks this site has been a bit of a reveation to me and reading through some of the posts it's become apparent (hard as it's been to accept) that she was giving me big time IOI's which me being blind to them didn't pick up on. It's also helped me put things into perspective a bit more and ixs making me feel oddly confident about things.

Over the past week or so she's taken to fbing me..pretty much daily, but after reading back what I've been replying to her I think I've got it all wrong and I'm worried I've come over as needy through speed of reply, too complimentary etc and now I have no idea what to do. Sorry this is a long meandering post but i had a lot to say .

I think when you come out of a long term relationship it does knock your confidence, plus you are new to the world of the pua, so don't be to hard on yourself. Keep reading up and working on your game. Try to put into practice what you learn on here. Only other thing I can say is don't rush into anything with this girl (rebound) as you probably are feeling needy and seeking validation with anybody, even if they aren't right for you.

I remember back when I started, there was this one girl I was after. And no I never got her lol. As you are learning, try not to focus to much on outcome. Also you might think you were acting needy and complimenting so you must counter that and stop talking to her and acting like an ass when you do. But you don't! Just slow things down, stop complimenting very much and talk to her a little less and for less time.

G'day baxgttdi And welcome to Pick up artist forums. I can understand where you're comming from and after being in a long term relationship things could be a bit messed up but you've come to the right place to get things back together . Firstly, I would like to make this clear and give this advice.

from everything you read try and figure out what you are good at, for example:
- Dressing well (Not only your opinion but others)
- Keeping a fun conversation
- Being confident

etc. etc.

You can use everything that worked with your previous girlfriend onto new ones. Obviously before breaking up, you had a long term girlfriend and PUA is about finding what works for you.

As for girls that you meet now and then, try some stuff out, if things don't work there are a LOT of others out there. Practice equals perfection

Goodluck, baxgttdi

- Yuksec

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