background:
-random house party
-sweet looking girl, is hit on by all the guys

odd part
-throughout the party, i didnt really talk in depth with her
-randomly says to everyone, guess my weight
-we guess wrong and then i measure myself
-she says, "i could pick you up"
-followed by "but that'd require touching you" and an ewww face. random banter follows
-then at 3AM, very randomly says i challenge you to basketball if ur drunk
-she eventually goes out of way to change to play bball
-in a small group we all went out couldnt find a place for us 2 to play, so just us 2 faced back cuz she's competitive.

IOI
-challenging me several times
-keeping up the conversation
-changing clothes to play ball

where i f'ed up
-she left without me asking for digits (yes i have a routine for this)
-so i facebook her to restart the challenge
-within few emails, she states i could borrow her clubs to play golf and "we should play sometime..."

problems
-she added me to facebook, but i have not confirmed cuz my fb has lots of my personal info on there that ruins the surprise
-i can't keep facebooking this person cuz it looks lame

my potential solution:
-get her out to another party setup thru friends to get # for real this time
-ask my friend who knows her well what she thinks of me
-keep facebooking til meet again?
-not add her to facebook or add her after say 2-3 days?

what do the gurus think?

It doesn't seem like you have a problem at all. You actually have a way of meeting up with her. Just message her on facebook asking for her number explaining you want to take her up on the challenge.


You shouldn't wait TOO long to do this either - you already have her "hooked." I've learned my lesson in this... once you hook them and wait too long then they lose interest. You're right she'll get tired of the messaging... so ask for her number now. Trying to get her to another party might take too long.

It's easy to get a girl interested... it's keeping the interest - that's the secret.

-isn't it a nono to ask on facebook?
-or i can go thru a friend to get her number, which is equally bad.
-or go thru that friend to find out what she thinks.

my gut feeling is intrigued, but again i didn't talk to her long enough (1 minute?) to do anything.

anyone else have an opinion?

I think it's a nono NOT to ask. Guys have successfully got numbers online (look at the online sarging section)... besides you didn't go through facebook first. I just think the longer you wait she loses interest or gains interest in somebody else.

Don't go through her friends, that's AFC. Heck, I'd find it creepy if someone got my number through a friend. Just say something funny after you ask her for number to thwart all the attention that's drawn to it. That's my opinion.