yea, Style recommends when you start to start slow.. like learn a couple openers, then go out and just practice opening. See what works and what doesnt work, and just cuz an opener doesnt work a couple times doesnt mean the opener is weak, it means your presentation or your delivery is weak.. check yourself to see if your leaning in too much, if your hovering over the set your more likely to push them away or come off as a creep trying to use a lame question as a pickup line. after you get proficient at opening, then throw in a neg... then just practice opening and negging until you get good.. then practice opening, negging, and throwing in an attraction building routine (DHV story) demonstrate higher value.

Just start slowly with one step at a time, if the conversation foils either pick it back up or just say, "it was a pleasure meeting you" and make your exit.. just practice, one step at a time, once you are at the stage where you can open, neg, demonstrate higher value, and have at least a basic idea of how to build attraction, at that point you should be starting to kino escalate.. thats my opinion, others will tell you to begin kino right away... if your a little confised about my terminology you can PM me and ill help you out in detail.. however, when i first joined this forum i think it was Rye Lee who did me the hugest favor and instead of answering me when i asked him what a certain acronym meant, hetold me to look around the forum until i found it. by doingthis i read so many different threads and learned so much i was truly greatful that he told me to find the answer myself... sorry for the long post homies...

I suppose id be aiming for a long term relationship of some sort, I think its important to just try and improve my game and dont get discouraged and keep trying to reach that goal.

I want to

1. Be fine with opening to any group of people, and befriend anyone I want.
2. Be charismatic to the max extent I can.
and
3. If I want to turn something into a relationship, I want the ability to.

I could care less about sex, I just want charisma.

i want to:

1. befriend as many people as possible (including male friends)
2. have enough FBs for lay anytime i want
3. some stable GFs (but won't restrict my love only to them)

I'm completely new to this so I'll go with the following.

1. To be able to talk to anyone, anywhere, at any time. General self confidence.

2. To be able to hold the attention of attractive women.

3. Petty as it may be it would be nice to show up a couple of friends who have always overshadowed me in this area.

Naturally these goals may change as I get experience. In short I'd love to be like a classic movie character, the sort that has charisma leaking from every bodily orifice.

I agree with what everybody wants here!

Because lets face it were all looking 4 one thing here: A LIFE!
And not just any Life but a Life that sees us realize our potential and allows us to be whatever it is we want to be be and with whomever. And what better way to do that than with random(but mind you Hot) chick!

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This is the first time I've actually thought about/laid out goals for myself in this area... I guess they'd be:

1) Become more natural at the approach (have a lot of approach anxiety)
2) Pick up the 9 and 10s
3) Learn and master the stages of a good seduction/pick up
4) Close effectively and consistently

I guess in the end, the ultimate goal in this challenge is to provide myself with options. I tend to be lonely a lot, and I really don't think it's good for me... but I find myself in the situation where the girls I can get, I don't want, and the girls I want seem unattainable. This ends up actually having a negative impact on the relationships I get involved in... so I guess these immediate goals are stepping stones to just being better at relationships.

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1. To become more affable and charming, and apply those skills with work, family, and friends.

2. To conquer my troubles in getting from open to close.

3. To do the choosing.

#3 goes along with #2 rather well, in that I don't want to close every HB I chat up, just the ones that I have a genuine attraction to, inside & out.

To be blunt I want to have more sex. I am already affable, charming and confident (or so I like to think ) - I just don't demonstrate this enough around women and that is really holding me back.

On a lighter note I have set myself a challenge to screw a different (attractive) girl every night during freshers week when I start Uni in the Autumn!

I already consider myself to be outgoing, charming, and confident... I just want to be even more so.

I guess my goals would be...

1. Build a higher constant of self-esteem.
2. Get rid of my perpetual one-itis.
3. Become a social facilitator.

Reading through Style's first book, I've realised a lot of things are familiar in how I've acted in the past, but I can see my mistakes not only with interacting with the opposite sex but with some guys along the way (mainly gay guys funnily enough). It's opening my eyes.

I thinks it's a good idea to list my goals so here goes!

1.) A lot of MLTRs and FBs at my disposal. I love the idea of an open relationship.
2.) Become good enough to consider myself a mPUA.
3.) Completely eliminate all social fears.

These are high goals, but that's certainly a good thing. I most likely won't achieve all of these (mainly #2) until at least several years. I'm still gonna try hard though.