Hey guys, Ive read over the books a couple times now, and while i find notation of these "boyfriend destroyer patterns", I dont know what one is or how to use one?

If anyone can lend me a hand, I would appreciate it.

i heard one once, diden't sound to impresive to me, seems like it would clash with any avatar pua persona


"its so good to have someone, not just like a fling but like someone who totaly 100% un flinchingly knows you, all ways knows what your feeling and thinking and you can totaly fully trust and you know will fully openly trust you"

the consept behind it seems like she has some attraction for you and when you say that she realizes that its not all true for her bf but could be for you


i messed around with a girl who had a bf one time, i diden't feel so good about it afterwards. wasen't really worth it in my case

Boyfriend destroyer patterns are either about lowering her boyfriend's value in her eyes, or making him seem beta-male, or maybe even both.

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Response to boyfriend:

Assume she wants to have sex with you.
Assume she's going to have sex with you.
Assume after she has sex with you she's going to want to continue having sex with you.

If boyfriend issue comes up, I emphasize that whatever relationship she has with him is entirely her business, and has nothing to do with me.

Assume she's going to lie to her boyfriend and not reveal that she's cheated on him with you.

Assume that she is justified in telling these lies, and help her to craft them.

Get ger accustomed to maintaining the facade that she is faithful to him, you can have fun with this game, and she experienced increased feelings of trust and reliance towards you because you help her with this situation.

Once I used this story about how when I told my girlfriend that I wouldn't commit to being monogamous with her, she accepted it, but then later the next day after we had sex she told me that she wanted to be my "primary" girlfriend, and that she wanted all the other girls to be "auxillary." I replied "ok" to her, but understanding that the terms "primary" and "auxillary" have no technical meaning, and this was more of a concession to her ego rather than any kind of tangible commitment. But I remember aftewards, thinking about my position in other relationships that I was in, and discovering that I was the opposite of this girl, I _want_ to be the "auxillary" person in my relationships. I don't want to be the person who she expects to come home to everyday, I like to be like a pinch-hitter, I like to be something special and tasteful, not just the everyday staple of her sexual diet. I like to be a special treat.

Other times I say that I remember a girl named Jenny from college who told me "having a nice physique is important; for it leads to a long series of short, unfulfilling relationships, rather than a monogamous journey into the banal." This quote is a branching point for a discussion of how there is a probability that each potential sexual partner's mind is filled with a world of ideas which are fascinating to be in contact with, but after prologned exposure the ideas become familiar, and once the novelty is gone then unless carefully cultivated, constant re-exposure to the same world-view can be toxic to your long-term emotional health