Fellas,

It's 1:30 AM here in Cali- and yet another sleepless night.

Why you ask? Among a number of different worries bouncing around in my head is a missed opportunity and woman whom I don't even know if I'll ever see again-



History

I've worked with this girl before... we had the opportunity to get to know each other a little as we talked in the back of the ambulance. I was surprised at how much of her personal life she was willing to divulge to me (i.e. relationships, divorce, etc. nothing sexual though) - but hey... she's a nurse and I was just an EMT. (That is mental block #1) Needless to say- she left me with a great first impression.

Couple of months later.....

A friend of mine whom is also a nurse for the same company brings up the topic of my favorite nurse. What do ya know... he decides to try and hook me up with her... Check out this line that he sent to her via text message "Hey, you have a secret admirer that works with us. You two should hook up". Now that was a masterpiece wasn't it?! He ruined game for me with that text message- but luckily I don't think that she knew who the "Master Matchmaker" was referring to in that text.


Last week.....

I coincidentally ran into my favorite nurse. She was working out of the ER of a hospital and I was picking up a noisy patient. I said, "Hey, aren't you *****?" (yes.... lame... I know).
She responded with, "Yea sure am"
Me- "I haven't seen you in a while- I almost didn't notice you. You look different."
She- "Well it could be my hair- I normally wear it up, and I also have bangs now" (something along those lines)

Meanwhile my patient commences to yell and become increasingly difficult.


This is my dilemma.....

If this were just an ordinary girl I wouldn't be writhing this behemoth of a thread... This girl is stunning.... both physically and mentally- I haven't felt this way about a girl since Highschool. On an ordinary occasion speaking with an ordinary woman this situation wouldn't be a problem- but with her I can just envision myself clamming up and screwing up another opportunity-and you've only got so many chances at things like this.

With the situation written above- I felt that it was inappropriate to continue a personal conversation with her.

I don't know what I need to do to... I don't even know if I'll have another opportunity.

I have this mental block... almost of inferiority because she is a nurse and I'm an EMT for the same company.

How do I approach this woman if I run into her at a hospital again (or anywhere else)?


-BlaTalian

First of all - remove this word from your vocabulary RIGHT NOW
Seriously, I assume there's a difference in level, but why would what you do be a bad thing? You clearly help people for a living - as does she. Why would that not be an attractive quality? Maybe you're not a qualified doctor, but you do what you can with what you have (whether financially or intelectually; it doesn't matter)

Also, it sounds like you will meet her again, you just don't know when. But having that fear is a good thing, because next time you see her you can use that as a reason to approach her. Tell her that you're beat and have x hours left until you can take a break. Find out when she can and tell her to meet you at y and you'll go for coffee. Keep it almost this brief.

Don't worry about routines ect, it's not a cold approach - use the canned stuff if you guys run out of conversation after you meet up.

Yeah man... I know that my conception of "Just being an EMT" is self-defeating behavior- to be honest I don't know why I feel like that when I think of her. I mean... I don't have low self-esteem and I have so much else going for me ... such as being a business owner.

It's not so much about the difference in professions... because I'm actually dating a nurse now whom I don't feel this way about- If fact, it's quite the opposite.

So basically, I know that I am worth much more than just my profession and I know that my perception of things seem a bit skewed... I'm just being completely honest man- When I said that this woman is stunning- she is F*cking stunning!

I hope that I do run into her again and when I do I'll give it a try. I think that I'd feel better if I approached her and was rejected than I do now- after missing the opportunity.

Was wondering if there was any other advice out there for me in regards to this situation. We already have some history (hopefully none significant enough to lower my value- if anything I think my interactions demonstrated higher value) so I was wondering what different types of approaches I can take and maybe some openers.

Also, I'm dating other women- but not on serious basis. So, I don't feel that I have Oneitis- but this girl is definitely tops on my list. Only way that can change is if I run into another woman that I'm equally impressed with- and I don't see that happening soon.