using a new opener


im not a follower,lol!!! i know everyone always mentions aim and i dont have one or use it sooo.. well u behave at work ya hear:)

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From: ..~RyGuy..
Date: Jul 9, 2008 3:42 PM

you dont have aim?? i guess you're not part of the "in" crowd are you?? i mean EVERYONEEE has aim.. i think that you might just be the only one that i met that doesn't.. something is wrong here ;P

and i will have fun at work, because it is my last day there, so i will make it fun. if you know what i mean


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From: HB.
Date: Jul 9, 2008 3:37 PM


i dont have aim.... but glad its not u and sry for your friend.. if theyre in a pretty serious sit. she needs to stop or he needs to leave.. enough of dr, jen.. have fun at work and ttys!!!

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From: ..~RyGuy..
Date: Jul 9, 2008 3:35 PM


yes i am sure this is not me!!

this is a situation that my friend Chris is in. he has been dating this girl for about 6 mos and he really likes her. and then she tells him that she makes out with girls all the time. he's not really sure how he feels about it. on one hand, he thinks its hot, but on the other, he fears that he can't satisfy her and that they will never get more serious. my opinion, I think she should have been more upfront with him from the beginning. i'm big on honesty. if you establish the relationship as casual then its fine.

I like your take on things. I have to get going to work, but we should talk some more. do you have IM. let me get your screenname. I promise I'll only send you creepy inappropriate messages 9 times per day

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From: .HB
Date: Jul 9, 2008 3:31 PM


hmmm.. idk.. if she was into girls then yeah if its just when she goes out and has a few drinks i dont believe so.. so is this not u??? lol:)

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From: ..~RyGuy..
Date: Jul 9, 2008 3:28 PM


Interesting..... but why would you think it was me??

let me ask you this......Take the same scenario, but this time the girl is making out with another girl, and lets say she does this almost every time she goes out.....would you consider that cheating?

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From: HB
Date: Jul 9, 2008 3:23 PM


def.. a kiss is a kiss whether they were drunk or not!!! she wouldnt like it if the male (or u) lol would have kissed a girl when they were drunk! def.... CHEATING!!!! not any good! but its easier to forgive if it were a drunken mistake then if feelings were involved!! Good answer???

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From: ..~RyGuy..
Date: Jul 9, 2008 3:17 PM



well now isn't someone being a little enthusiastic?

while i have your attention, i need an unbiased female prospective on something.. Say, this guy is dating this girl, and she goes out with her friends, has a few drinks and ends of making out with a random guy at the bar.....Would you consider this cheating?


----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: .HB
Date: Jul 9, 2008 3:10 PM


thank you!!!!!

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: ..~RyGuy..
Date: Jul 9, 2008 2:58 PM




awwww you so adorable....

It looks like you did a good job on the opener and opinion. I don't know personally how to get past the situation of her not having AIM. If she doesn't then I try my luck at gaming her over messages and comments and try for a number close when appropriate. Or I simply move on to the next HB.

You did good job though on the new opener and on hooking her to continue conversation.

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i think you played it off well man, but honestly that's one of the things i don't like about the "opinion on my friend's situation" opener...sure they respond and give their opinion but it takes the focus almost completely off of you and her.

i can't say i've used it too many times, but in my opinion you should just shrug off the no AIM thing and try to spark a new topic with her that can bring in a little bit more playfulness between you and her. that's the positive of your opener...at least you've had good contact with her, so you trying to make conversation with her isn't going to be out of nowhere.

good luck!

Yeah, write her again about something completely different. Like "I was looking out my window here at work (I always sneak off a bit after lunch for private surfing, but shh, don't tell my boss lol) and I just saw some crazy german tourists triple parking their van right under my nose. You'd think they learn the traffic rules before coming here, but no lol"

Let her in on some little conspiration or something.. bond further with her. And try show her more clearly that you are interested in her personal life.