My problem is, what vernacular do you use when you decide you want to be in an actual relationship with a girl. What I mean by relationship is in the sense that Its now legit to introduce ___ girl as your girl friend. If you want to get married its really easy, you bend on knee and ask will you marry me?

I realized this has been something of a problem for me, in the past 1 of two things usually happens.

1. Girl asks "so where is this going?"

2. I never bring it up and we just act like a couple but because I never call her my GF etc. she loses hope in a future and gives up.

In one very awkward instance I asked exactly as is, "so...we've been seeing each other for quite some time want to be a couple?"
Apparently that's not a very smooth way of approaching.....

Ideas?

That's kind of funny cuz I've thought the same thing at time since I've been out of high school. In highschool it was more of a simple, Do you want to be my girlfriend, do you wanna date kind of question.

I don't see anything wrong with going witht he same aproach. After seeing a girl for a bit, don't let it become a long time so when you bring it up you get the responce "Haven't we been up till now?"

But something along the lines of I really like you, and I'd like to see us go somewhere or I'd like us to make a relationship out of what we got, etc.

Good question. My guy wrote a song and played it for me on his guitar: "Do you wanna be my girl" was the way it went. Very cute. Except then the song got kind of dark so I got confused. So we never completed this conversation. As girl, I would have preferred some reassurance.

After some time, maybe a few months, we want know: are we now seeing each other exclusively? That is what being someone's girlfriend implies to me.

I think if you said this:

"HB, we've been hanging out for a while, and I really like you." (or: "and I think we're good together."

"I'd like it if we were exclusive. What do you think?"

And then be quiet and let her respond.

I think it's better to have this conversation than not to. Otherwise, you never know for sure, and the girl might still think she is free to go out with other guys. Or that she *should* accept other dates because you haven't made your intentions clear. Girls don't want to get all their hopes pinned on a guy who's out dating other girls.

Another thing girls like is if you introduce them to a friend, family member or acquaintance as their girlfriend. That is, if they feel the same way about you as you do about them. That's another way of making your status with each other clear.

just tell her u want to make things official.. thats what i did back in the day.. i would tell them.. but not make it official on the spot .. i would say but i wanna take u somewhere first... and i would take them to the beach or something

you know make it romantic.

I solved it this way:

PUA: Hey I need to talk to you about something serious..., you need to take responsibility, it is time to take this seriously, Im pregnant and it is your child...

HB: Relieved laugh.

PUA: No but really, feel like going exclusive?