well, I haven't seen or talked to my ex of 3 years, in 2 months, and I dont plan on it anytime soon. Im not exactly over her all the way yet, but my question is, since its 4th of july, should I avoid going to a place I know she will be at, if not, what do I do if I see her?
Dont say anything until she does?
Make small talk if she does talk to me?
Shes the type of girl to be hanging on guys in front of me and shit, and Im the type to hide my feelings at all times.

Just act as you would act if you met a friend you havent seen for sometime.

You should not be cancelling programs for anyone and least of all, your ex.

the thing is, Im not gonna be happy to see her, and I want her to know that.
She probly wont say a word to me, except laugh with all her friends, and hang on to guys to make sure I see.
I think if I go, I will just completely ignore her instead

Im not sure what you are trying to achieve, but you do not want her to know you aint happy seeing her. Be with people and have a good time if you bump into her by no means go out of your way to see her. But dont let her know she is getting to you. Especially if she is the kind of girl that Act as if she is just another girl or an old friend. Indifference is the key here.

Finally don't let her ruin a good night out with some mates.

Hope this helps

The Ace

Run into her and pretend you dont even remember

Hell, she'll try to run into you if she sees you there and you have showed total indifference...and when she does that..you obviously dont remember who she is.

But NEVER get caught looking at her by her!

yea well hopefully theres enough people there, so that I wont even see her.
I guess Ill just do what I do best, and hide any sense of feeling. I will just act as if I dont care about her anymore.

If you don't want to have her back, hide all your feelings towards her and avoid talking to her. If she speaks to you, be polite and succint ! The end. For the maximum effect (heh): remove her phone number, MSN, myspace, GFTOW, etc. Maybe even blow up her house (If you only enjoy her staying at your place )


If you want her back, just whatever you do, do not chitchat with her at the moment. Comfort building is a trap leading straight to LJBF for you right now (assuming that theres too little attraction built up)!

Game her and then game her friends infront of her. Build up attraction, do ESP routine and kiss her... Then say "I'd like us just to be friends" and kiss her again ! Now feel free to build comfort.

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had the same problem, loved my ex for two years was a total afc with her did everything for her, even paid for the spice girls for us to go and see lol. i saw my ex for the first time in bout 2months out with her new boyfriend, nearly kicked off but shrugged it off and just try and have a good time sarge, open sets just have a good time because you will be having a good time yourself and show her what she is missing. im off to australia next year and my ex works in an ice cream van, things get better!

nice advice.

when it comes to ex's i find that less is always more. i avoided all contact with my ex after we broke up because i had a feeling i would become LJBF. If you can handle being LJBF and build on it, then be my guest, but i personally would just move on to the next and pretend your ex is dead. cherish the memory, but ignore any existence. if you ever see her again it will be like seeing a ghost! so always try to avoid it.

well just to make it clear, (even though this post is a little old now)
I want nothing to do with her, I hate her. I dont want to be her friend, she was a shitty girlfriend let alone a shitty friend.
I ended up not going, because I had other things to do, but from now on, Im not going to avoid anything because I know shes there. Im just gonna ignore her

Next her.

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