| The other day while taking care of my little cousin and his buddies I realized how even at their young age ( around 10 years old ) there is a social hierarchy established. I always knew how this was something that occurred naturally, but until I looked at it in front of me I never knew it to be as obvious. Even their body language portrayed that of an AFC or ALPHA MALE respectively.
First off what I noticed was that there was an obvious alpha male that took control of the situation, and everybody seemed to respect. Than there where his buddies which he turned to for support when demonstrating his COCKY attitude. Lastly there were the bystanders and followers which where easily seen as the AFC'S.
This got me thinking in what where the main characteristics in each of this three categories, here are my thoughts:
What an AFC is to me:
All of us have at some point of our lives have gone through this stage, either because we lacked confidence and inner game, or because we were not able to establish our DHV against older guys (when we were young) or because you simply "got used to" being this way, by letting yourself being handled and manipulated by other people and not standing your ground.
We know that AFC's are seen as lower value males in the eyes of woman because you seem desperate to get with them, but in reality it is only because they make themselves this way by acting without confidence whether its with their buddies, or with a HB they just met. In essence, what you have to do to snap out of the AFC stage is not give a fuck about what others think of you, and if you do, don't demonstrate it. Like mystery says YOUR EMOTIONS ARE GOING TO TRY AND FUCK YOU OVER, don't let them, and eventually by doing this, you will DHV more than you imagine.
So basically to me an AFC is not frustrated because he can't close a girl, but because he can't do what he wants, he is frustrated because he knows he is weak on the inside and easily manipulated by anyone around him, this gives out a vibe of desperation that chicks catch, and thus lose interest.
What an Alpha male is to me:
To me being Alpha is far easier said than done, and I know, for I have been both an AFC and ALPHA at some point in my life, and I think so has everyone.
I am pretty sure everyone has at one point or another in their life been an alpha, either it was with your cousins friends that came over for the weekend, or with some people you met at a club just for the night. Anyway, my point is that most of us have had that feeling of being Alpha at one point or another, but than something brought you down again.
Everyone, even Alphas have things that brings them down, but what makes the difference is their ability to say FUCK IT, and stand up again. As you come to think about it, most Alphas are pretty similar. Here are what I think are the characteristics of being alpha:
- When you know something someone does or says is going to affect you say " Fuck It " and turn away, as if it never even mattered.
-They always have lower expectations of others than of themselves
-Are not oblivious to their accomplishments, and talk about them publicly so other people are aware of them as well
- Have will power to do what they say
-Commit to everything they do
-They are the best at something either it is a sport, girls, or school
-Always seem to be busy, and occupied
Anyway the list could go on, but there is no need to. What I am trying to say is that in order to really become Alpha, you can not only start acting like one hoping to become it, you have to live like one, to eventually make it part of yourself.
It is like going to the gym. You will not get strong because you go to they gym, and make yourself believe you are working hard even if you are not, You will become strong by actually kicking your own ass everyday for weeks until you realize you have become as strong as you want to be.
It is the same with becoming an alpha male, you can not start acting cocky around people if you have nothing to really be cocky about. You have to change your lifestyle more than you think. Your everyday life is what got you where you are today, and if you are not satisfied with it change it, in every aspect that doesn't please you 100%. If you are shy around girls, talk to them. If you are not alpha with your friends and wanna be, get away from them to break the old habits, and come back when you are Alpha enough.
This is what I did, I stopped talking to my friends as regularly as I did, and focused on myself until I knew I was alpha enough to go back, and it worked. Now me and my two best buddies are complete alphas, but not because we want to be, but because we don't give a fuck if we are not, might sound weird I know but it's true and it works.
To sum it all up, in order to change from AFC to Alpha, you have to work hard in yourself, inside and outside. Everyone knows what it is we need to improve on ourselves, but only a few actually do it, only the Alpha. Change your everyday routines for better, work on your body by eating properly and working out, and work on you inner game by talking to people, doing group activities, and standing for yourself, and eventually you will realize you don't need to act alpha to be alpha, and by this point you will already be it. All of this things will give you confidence, and girls will perceive it and feel attracted to you. Work hard on yourself, by kicking your ass into doing things that will make your life better, like making healthy choices, or realizing that your Approach Anxiety is only a state of mind. Believe me in the end the pay offs are worth the investment.
To me it is all a vicious circle that starts in your mind, manifests itself in your actions, and ends in the way you project yourself to others... I might be wrong though, but guess what I don't give a fuck, so take or leave what you will.....
- Genesis A.
"After all, we only live once so why not give it a try"
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