I'm 16,and have have a serious anxiety problem.Whenever it comes to talking to people I don't know or even loose acquaintances I have a lot of trouble speaking.I act like a 5 year old only able to answer closed ended questions without any eye contact.I also get this feeling of pain and fear that is very intense.This is magnified 10 fold when it comes to girls.In fact,even when girls show interest in me and chat me up I have a hard time.Because of this I have not had a single girlfriend,ever!I always was an introvert, and can't look people in the eye on the bus or express myself.I tried going to the mall on a newbie mission which involves asking for rejection-but I couldn't even do that!I ended up eating a crappy taco and watching a horrible movie without even trying once!I have a serious problem with my inner game-I don't have any!
I need help!

It first takes a change in attitude and you to reframe your beliefs, expectations and assumptions. You can't go out hoping to throw away all your fears and uncomfortableness while still thinking that you're inferior, that you're hopeless, ugly, shy, insecure, whatever. Your mind controls your actions.

"The men who have done big things are those who were not afraid to attempt big things, who were not afraid to risk failure in order to gain success."

B.C. Forbes

_Saiko

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"The person who loses to them self can't achieve anything"

How do I change my attitude?Reframe my beliefs?How?

Rule number 1 of LIFE = HAVE FUN!

Basically, you have to mentally combine having fun and interacting with over people, just like on here in some aspects of the game where you link feelings to certain things in a womans mind.

Try this, Get your best mate round. Get the phonebook. PRANK CALLS! Phone up pretending to be a salesman or whatever other things you can think of! When you first do it you'll be nervous when its ringing.. just hold on in there and you should have LOADS of fun eventually thinking up lots of phone pranks lol. You could pretend to be an angry boyfriend / offer them an unbelievable job ermm.. I don't know! The possibilities are endless!

With the phonebook, you can also phone up random people and say "Hey is so and so there?" and they'll say no. There's nothing wrong with this, people dial the wrong number all the time. If you want to try and progress, try and spark up a conversation with the person on the phone about whatever!

I can't think of anything else off the top of my head right now.. hope that helps though!

Hood

dude I used to have some social anxiety myself when I was in early high school. I went and got help and saw a therapist and really worked on my self esteem issues. when working on inner game you have to be honest of yourself. Ask how to questions (how do I stop being this way...) instead of coming from a stance where you're giving up. Take a proactive approach. Think of life as a social experiment you can only present your best self at any given time. You're in high school, you have a life after high school or in college coming up where you can completely change yourself. So go out there try new things, calibrate, and learn. Things that you looked at originally as failed social interactions think to yourself what could I have done different then use it as a learning experience. Start small don't take big leaps and aggressively work at it.