Hey guys! ok so the chick helped me out with my course and as a thanks i wanted to take her out but she said no i dont hav to n bla bla but than she was like only if i pass it! AND I DID! well i havent informed her yett but i wanna make it sound good u know i was just gonna txt her and say well u best hav a date for me as to when ur gonna b free so we can hav that dinner cuz i passed (i know sounds fukin boring). So how should i inform her? thats step 1!
Step 2! WAT TO DO WHILE THERE! i know i still hav to build more comfort and more rapport! so if u guys can help me out i'd really appreciate it! so REPLY EVERYONE PLZ

That sounds so freakin' AFC, are you sure she's not just sayin' that for the sake of sayin it?

But on the off chance I'm wrong, I would not say:
It sounds mega needy, like you're beggin' and holdin her to her word, which she probably said jokingly to appease you.

Instead, I would say something like:
This message does a lot of things.
1) It conveys non neediness
2) It doesn't look like you're holding her to her word, which would be creepy.
3) You're slighly negging her, so if she flakes on you, no biggie.
4) The outing seems less premeditated, and non commital. Cos you're in a group you're not sharing a whole evening with her, which could be awkward.

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ok let me explain. She helped me out with my course. So i said as a thanks and the least i can do is take u out for dinner to which later she was like only if u passs. And now that i hav, we will b. its just that i havent told her yet and want to cause the dinners just between me n her. Hope that clears out, but i know wat u mean tho.

>ok let me explain

No need to matey.

> And now that i hav, we will b.

I wouldn't be surprised if she flakes on you.

> its just that i havent told her yet and want to cause the dinners just between me n her.

And did she ask you? - No

Think of it from her point of view, she has to spend a Romantic evening alone with just you, how would that make her feel. If she isn't interested in you romantically, she's gonna think, 'I'm gonna be spending an ENTIRE evening ALONE with someone who wants to GET INTO MY PANTIES, how do I escape.'

A group activity is less commital and you can run your routines on her on the fly. You can demonstrate your social value to her in front of YOUR friends. And if things get steamy between you during the night, well it wasn't planned.

You'll be surprised what difference it makes to a girl, if they think your behaviour is on the spur of the moment...

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I agree with Tweeby.

If you're old enough that you're living by yourself, or with a roommate, then you could always tell her that you're going out with the friends to celebrate and all that stuff, but you're a man of your word, so she should come out with you guys and she can join you for dinner at your place before hand to make it more convenient. This brings her into your place before you do anything together, so it makes it a lot more comfortable to come back after the night is over and you don't have to pay an arm and a leg for dinner.

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She made you feel like you earnt it.
If you pass, you get rewarded and win you're prize.

Not so easily done when put on the spot but here's an example

'you'll be lucky, if i pass you get you're date, best keep your fingers crossed'
Then Change subject maybe or 'but you better pass too, i could'nt possibly go out with a girl less intelligent than me'

'hey i passed, typical, now i've gotta take you out on that date, but dont get any idea's mind, what about you did you pass? So hows thursday?'

Or something

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She's in the driver's seat and she's gonna have you begging her for a date. You're in a bad position and you're planning on making it worse. My advice: listen to the advice of more experienced members because you sound big-time AFC.

Yes man i know im a big time afc and i do need to take experienced pua's advice and im down with that. So, in summary wat is it that i should do because im still a bit unsure..

Your over thinking it. Re-read what Tweeby and Rye Lee stated in their replies. Read it carefully, and then you can figure out what to do.

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you dont need our advice on this...even if we tell you what to do, and she doesnt flake, then u will be out on a date with her and you will revert to AFC ways.

You need to work on your inner game and grasp the concept that ALPHA MALES DO NOT "EARN" dates. I say forget about her and move on the right way, OR go out on this "date" and initiate it how one of the above mentioned, not expect anything from the date, and just take it as a learning experience, and THEN move on because no matter how hard you try, she is going to see through your charade.

Look at it this way...she gets an interesting text from you and does decide to go, thinking that maybe you're not how she thought....then she'll be confused as hell when how you are acting in person is NOTHING LIKE the text you sent.

Okk, I had this same exact problem,,
ur showing desperatteness
and thats not a good thing
u have to be the prize my friend,
u dont have to fucking pass just to get her to go out with u
u can demostrate clear DHV and convey ur personality and attraction spots to get her man
First thing u do is call her, GET OUT OF THE COMFORT ZONE, no txt no aim!
And sounds like its going to turn out to be Lets just be friends,
Where the fuck is the chemistry???
And Why the fuck is she the one controling ur life,
put a collar and a leash on her not on ur self,,,
And act like the real men, it looks like she has you on her little handss

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Okk, I had this same exact problem,,
ur showing desperatteness
and thats not a good thing
u have to be the prize my friend,
u dont have to fucking pass just to get her to go out with u
u can demostrate clear DHV and convey ur personality and attraction spots to get her man
First thing u do is call her, GET OUT OF THE COMFORT ZONE, no txt no aim!
And sounds like its going to turn out to be Lets just be friends,
Where the fuck is the chemistry???
And Why the fuck is she the one controling ur life,
put a collar and a leash on her not on ur self,,,
And act like the real men, it looks like she has you on her little handss

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Gotta Fuck em all! Pokemon!

Okk, I had this same exact problem,,
ur showing desperatteness
and thats not a good thing
u have to be the prize my friend,
u dont have to fucking pass just to get her to go out with u
u can demostrate clear DHV and convey ur personality and attraction spots to get her man
First thing u do is call her, GET OUT OF THE COMFORT ZONE, no txt no aim!
And sounds like its going to turn out to be Lets just be friends,
Where the fuck is the chemistry???
And Why the fuck is she the one controling ur life,
put a collar and a leash on her not on ur self,,,
And act like the real men, it looks like she has you on her little handss

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Gotta Fuck em all! Pokemon!