okay after realize I had ross's ebook this whole time and didnt notice.. I got to reading it. Now this maybe a stupid question but for those who know his weasel phases and what not. when your talking in converstaion to a girl do you say the phrase slow or just use it in normal conversation. Just a example:

you ever feel very attracted when you first meet a guy. Then you realize you want to get to know him?

now I hope this doesnt get deleted for even this is very powerful but Im just confused if you should say those words slow, in a diffreint tone or just say it in a normal every day conversation?

It's going to depend on how you most effectively communicate. I put a slightly slower and deeper tonality into my embedded commands. The ideal, for me (I think) is to make it barely noticeable but still different.

Some sales people use embedded commands in NLP in their regular voice... but their regular voice is always loud and deep. Some other people, especially a lot of SS practitioners, put a petty big difference between their regular and trance tonality.

I suggest you find a good, deeper, natural-sounding tonality for your embedded commands that's actually different from your regular tone so that you can utilize fractionation.

try to find some audio/video of people like RJ, Richard Bandler, Kenrick Cleveland (one of the best NLP practitioners and teachers as far as I know.) or Major Mark Cunningham.

If you're serious about applying embedded commands you should find audio or video of the people who teach this.

one of the basic ideas is to pitch the embedded commands just a little bit lower, or higher, as the conscious will not realize it, but the unconscious will somehow string the words together.

Even Derren Brown has some examples of this,
Youtube Derren Brown NLP.
where he uses a combo of hypnosis, embedded commands and anchoring.

Either that or you may find some videos of embedded commands on youtube.

How do you get the embedded commands in.

This entire concept came from Richard Bandlers modeling of Milton Erickson. Fascintating Bio on him in Wikepedia. The idea is to mark out the embedded commands in a way that only the subconcious mind will grasp. Most of Miltons life he was disabled and his predominate method was he swayed his body to mark out embeded commands.

The voice may be the easiest way by either speeding up, slowing down, using resonance, or changing volume when saying embedded commands. Keep it simple and consistant at first. Use very simple short embedded commands.

We can all RECOMMEND good things in life. I really like THIS POST cereal. What is your favorite POST cereal.

What i do is i say the phrases slightly louder than the rest or increase the speed.