I have a very bad case of one-itis and it is completely fucking up my inner game. Basically, I pulled this girl about a year ago before I discovered PUA. I say pulled, she came onto ME as I never used to approach, ever. She is to this day, the hottest girl I've ever pulled and admittedly a very cool person too (she's an actress). I had a one night stand with her and being a complete AFC at the time, became completely obsessed with her despite the fact I never saw her again (she never returned my calls). She was on the rebound and kept on about her ex and with me being clueless back then, I had no idea what was going on (I know now that I was obviously being used) I had her in my head for ages even though it was just a stupid one off. I used to beat myself up saying it was a fluke and that she was far too good for me thats why she blew me out, all that AFC crap. Then a few months back, I started getting heavily into PUA and thankfully, forgot all about her. Recently, I've been feeling better than ever about myself and have started to gain more and more confidence when going out sarging.

Then last weekend, I saw her in this club where I first met her and immediately started feeling obsessed with her again. I was all fired up for the night and although I am still struggling with AA, was really in the mood for pulling and just feeling really good in general. Seeing her again bought back a lot of the old memories of me fawning all over her and being completely submissive like I was before and it made me feel like shit. I made no attempt to approach her and felt like a loser again basically. I don't know what it is, but all this week I haven't been able to stop thinking about her and it is really affecting my game. I just don't feel like going out sarging this weekend. I feel like a stupid prick because I KNOW this is completely irrational. I don't even know the girl! Only now do I fully realise why I fucked up with her in the first place and that is what is hard to deal with. I can't get over the "if only" scenario. Lame.

I know they say the best way to overcome one-itis is to go out and lay 10 girls but I'm not in a position to do that....yet. I still struggle to pull although things are slowly improving. How the fuck do I get this girl out of my head? The problem is that I see her as completely out of my league as I was rejected by her before (even though I fucked her). I honestly can't explain it. Before I discovered PUA I would have called it "love at first sight" or some other lame hollywood shit. Now I know this is all bullshit and I just want to move on but it feels like I'll never pull another girl as cool as her. Ahhhhh fuck it

I'm in your same position. Except i've got TWO-itis, for identical twins at my workplace.


I cannot even hope to begin to relate how much the situation completely overflows Suck's intager and wraps right the hell round into Misery.


You're not alone mate. There really isn't any advice I know to give...

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"The Game.... Is 90% Confidence, 9% Technique, and 1% Looks. You can't win unless you play it"

Guys, guys guys. You have not become all you can yet and so you are not ready yet to sarge these girls.

Imagine coming back from an exhausting weekend where you have had 2 hb9s (one arguable a 10) bitch fighting over you. Imagine over the weekend you have opened numerous sets of all kinds and its has become second nature to do so. Imagine that by opening a set out of habit that it has become predictable for the hottest girl in the group to end up all over you.

Then you bump into one of these girls with a few friends and bam, you hit your routine. You know exactly how to speak, carry your tone of voice, where to look, when to look, how to smile and how to make them laugh and start getting IOIs out fo her friends. Its all so natural now you dont recognise yourself.

You'll be at the point where you'll be deciding whether you want her or not. She'll be so confused, yet intrigued by you. You'll recognise all the usual stages a women goes through, atrraction, comfort etc etc that you can even toy with her.

THAT IS YOUR GOAL

To reach this goal, you have no choice but to sarge, sarge and sarge some more, go out, get rejected a million times. Great historical icons never stopped in their pursuit of glory because "they didn't feel like it". You know what you have to do to get there, now you just need to put one foot in front of the other and dont stop till you cross the finishing line.

Do it guys.

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Bro look, ive been in the same crap recently except i didnt lay with the girl i just ended up making out with her on a boat. Afterwards she told me like "hey you are failing at being a friend" because i asked her out after the whole make out thing. Anyways she was stuck in my head for quite a bit. Then i hit up some clubs and got over her, i think the best way to get over girls you get close with is just interacting with other girls.

Having a good female friend is a really good thing she can help you shop give you advice etc.

Everyone has their own hangups... its life... that fact is you already stuck it to this girl once. Thats right YOU stuck it to HER. Did she take your fucking virginity? PUAS always say the key is to GFTOW... problem is you have low self esteem. So you are going to go fuck NO other women.....

You do not value yourself, and dont consider being worthy of her. You have it reversed. She is not worthy of YOU! Not one fucking bit. You are the prize. You are the one worth chasing, not her. You have to improve your self worth and understand that she is just one little insignificant girl. It is time for you to move on.... How do you think this is going to end between you and her? Because, to her, its already ended...

This is what I tell myself when I have trouble getting over a oneitus or a girl who hurt me...

"Who is this bitch? Seriously? She is going to be a sentence, in a paragraph, of a chapter of the book that is my life. Thats it. Its time to start the next paragraph or a new chapter."

Good luck bro.

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I really like that. Thanks man

Last night when I posted this, I was freaking out a bit. I've really thought about stuff today and I am going to forget all about this girl becasue its pointless dwelling on the past. That was the problem, coming to terms with what a loser I was and being reminded of it by seeing her. Now I have faced up to that I can move on again and so tonight, I am on a fucking mission!