i can do it
i made it
i can attract, build comfort, get them naked blabla :p
till the point of sex..
im so fkn nervous :s
i cant get hard
its totally embarassing, i just talk myself out of it but it feels your incapable of doing the deed

how do you guys experience this, i wont go to a doctor for this or friends in real life cuz its totally embarassing.

i do have a lot of pre-ejaculate coming out of my penis cuz im horny but im too nervous to get hard
it sux cuz by my way of speaking nobody would notice im nervous like you cant tell at all
my body language is also relaxed and stuff but for some reason the device isnt working as it should be.
im a virgin and ive had this everytime so far
even when the girl almost ripped my clothes of and rubbed her pussy to my pants we were already fucking but without me being hard
plz help

i must add that i dont have a lot of erections during the day but i do have one almost every night
and when i watch porn it wont get hard too, but when i start to play with it i can get hard pretty easily

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Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

This is a much more common problem than people think. Sometimes this is due to a physical issue, but most commonly it is just psychological.

If you're attracted to the girl, you stop thinking about the fact that you're gonna be having sex, it's not a big thing, people do it every day, so don't put pressure on yourself, it's a natural part of being a human being. Don't get mad at yourself for it not working as you'd like, because that only makes it worse. Take it easy, take your time and do some foreplay to relax; go down on her, have her go down on you, so you get used to the idea of just being naked with a girl and that you're doing sexual acts together.

Let her know you sometimes have difficulties, or even tell her straight up that you're a virgin and a bit nervous. Girls are very understanding in my experience with this issue (yeah, I'm diabetic and due to poor circulation I've got this issue, thank god for science and the little pills it creates).

I'd suggest finding a position that makes it easier for you to get hard, personally I find having her on the edge of the bed so that when you "mount", you are standing on the floor works best. This position gives you the ability to look at her and have a visual aid to get yourself going, as well as being able to give it a few strokes to get it/keep it up before you begin. Once you start, as long as you keep it going, you shouldn't have much difficulty, especially if it's just psychological.

If you're having trouble even by yourself and none of that stuff works for you, then go see a doctor. Go to a walk in clinic or something if you don't want to see your family doctor, but go see one. They invented all sorts of different things to help with this issue and there's no shame in it. I've been diabetic since before I was 14, so by the time I started sleeping with people at 18/19, I already was having issues, but in order to have sex, I went to the doctor, got some pills and no issue after that. If you feel at all immasculated that you can't get an erection, then taking a pill won't make you feel less of a man, it'll make you feel like more of one, seriously.

P.S. I recommend Cialis of Viagra, as it lasts 24-36 hours instead of only 4-6 and it doesn't cause as much facial "flushing" (basically Viagra causes such increased blood flow that your face also becomes full of blood and it can be hot and uncomfortable). Note you won't have a 36 hour hard on, merely the increased ability to achieve one during that time.

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~ Rye

Don't think about it. When you're in the bedroom, you're a fucking animal. You have one responsibility, one reason for your existence: SEX. Don't - think, just do it. People have been doing this since the beginning of time. It's a part of you, and all you have to do is choose to accept that part of you. You've done everything correctly, you have the girl, she wants you, she's shut off all but the most primordial part of her brain in that moment for you, all you have to do is the same thing. Close the deal.

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Its calle da little purple pill. by the time you are done with her she will be afraid of your c*ck

erm...how old are you and have you always had this problem?
If your young and the answer is no, I suggest masturbating until you can control it...

Rye Lee is right. This problem is DAMN common. I even used to have this problem. Then I learned all about relaxing and living in the moment in virtually every stage of the pickup from meet to close.

That's what it's all about, man. Relaxing and living in the moment. You don't need a damn pill to achieve that. You just need to breathe, literally and figuratively.

Don't watch porn it'll desensitize you.....and dont touch yourself you'll useless your with a girl you'll be fine

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Hey bro,

No worries, I actually experienced similar problem. I have been with one girl for a long time, and we thought we ended it, but my sub-conscious mind didnt. I was out with other girl and hell,w e're having sex and I'm thinking about my ex :S and I just got tired of fucking her and my penis just shranked off later on, it was very embarrasing. I was an animal with my GF but with the other girl it turned out totally fked up.

I wasl ike wtf how can It happen to me!, I thought maybe i got gay or something lol, i went home and watched porn and shagged, everything was working fine.

Its all about 'mind-frame' bro. You gotta 'let go' other things and just focus on what you have right there, which you should be doing anyway.

So dont worry, shit happens, take it, accept it, and fix it. (and do the pr0n check)

I've had this before, but don't worry about it too much....

It really is a mind thing. If it happens to you a lot, then it may be physical, 95% is psychological.

Mine was my first ever girlfriend - she was a bit intimidating, so left me feeling inadequate and ultimately not being able to perform.

I have since moved on and am very comfortable with my performance - and so is my partner (and previous partners to boot!)

The mind really is much stronger than the body...

Not in the same ball park, but I went climbing on the weekend, and I have vertigo. Climbing the wall.. No problem, but absailing back down? Not a chance! My body tried to get near the edge, but as soon as I looked over that edge, my body shut down and I had to retreat. I am a strong person, mentally and physically fit, but this is a very debiliating symptom, as is what you are going through.

The reason you are going through this, is because you are in a situation that you may think you want to be in, but mentally, you really don't - even though you may have convinced yourself you do - your sub-concience has taken over and disabled your ability to perform.

Can I just respond to those that are saying take the "pills" - like most pills, this is a "stop gap" solution and will not achieve the end result. Pain killers take away the pain for a while, but don't cure the problem. You need to think about why you can't perform, and if necessary, seek some expert advice. Psychologists can be very understanding (and will, in the log run, cost less and be more helpful than pills!)

Knowing what sense works best for stimulating you can help. For instance, for me (during intimacy) I can get hard almost instantly from dirty talk as I'm very auditory. I'm not an expert though. Hope this helps!

While Viagra may be a good short-term solution, it doesn't really fix the problem, but instead treats the symptoms.

I used to have the same problem. If there's one thing I'm good at it's research though!

The most scientifically supported SPAM that you can do yourself seem to be Pomegranite juice (couple glasses everyday) or pomegranite extract (in pill form), and Kegel exercises. Both have been shown to help increase bloodflow ‘down there’. Even for guys who don’t have erection problems this can only be a good thing as it’ll allow you to stay harder for longer!

Your kegel muscle is the muscle you’d use to stop pissing mid-stream. Obviously you don’t actually need to be pissing to do the exercises! Pull and hold that muscle for as long as you can, then break for a minute and repeat. Do that about 5 times. Repeat each day. As the muscle strengthens and the exercise becomes easier, increase the time you hold it for. I started at 5 seconds and am now up to 2 minutes.

Great thing about kegel exercises: they’re free!
They also have other sexual benefits that you can research yourself. Everyone should be doing them really.

The effects of both of these ‘SPAM’ are cumulative, so you need to be doing both for about a month before you’ll see results.

If the problem persists, go to a doctor. It really isn’t that embarrassing!

Hope my first post proves useful.

I found this to be a common problem among smokers too. Do you smoke a lot stekemrt? Hydration could be a factor as well.