Ever since I got back from the superconference I caught this really bad cold. My nose keeps running ever 20 minutes and I cough like I'm almost dying, but I still keep going out. No matter what, I need to be in field. So the last couple of days was very tiresome for me since I'm not feeling 100%. This week was important for me in terms of realizations. Ever since the superconference, a lot if believes changed and you can read about them at the end.
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Thursday
We went karaoke and then arrived at the club. Knowing that I'm not feeling very well, I didn't sing to save my voice and my goal for the night was to be a good wing. I opened maybe 2 sets and helped AMOGing a backstreet boy (read Streetwisekeen's FR). My amogging was pretty bad till I went locking the amog out with my body language. Job done. I don't really believe in amogging, just show better game and be more interesting imho. You will get the girl that way and if the guy starts to harrass you then you just say "cool man" and yank the girl elsewhere.
The last set was the best one. I come in to wing Maui and start talking to HbBigBoobs. I pump her BT by teaching her salsa and then immediatly isolate her to go for the 10-sec badboy kino k-close routine (too long of a name, need to come up with something shorter) but it failed. She turns her head and immediatly confesses she just gave birth like 2 weeks ago. I'm in shock and respect her decision. She is not married, but I decide not to go after her anymore since I don't to cause trouble in sake of the baby.
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Friday
Me, Maui and Rince are at my place preparing for some daygame. Rince slept over at my place from Thursday night and we did some male bonding that day. Jackett and King Kong came over to my place to and then we headed off to this open air mall. I've never been there before but as soon we arrived, I loved the place. It's excellent for daygame with loads of traffic.
We go into a department store and I spot a 2-set walking towards us. I stop them but Kong stopped them at the same time too.
Kong (to SS): Wait, who does she look like?
SS: Hmmm, she looks like Jesse. The biggest bully in high school.
HB1: No, I'm nice.
Kong starts to run the horse girl routine (it's actually an opener) and she fell for it. Kong sends out sexual innuendos and tries to go for the #close, but she didn't bite. We talk for a bit more and then I try to #close the same girl, but succeeded. Why? Kong said something like "we should hang out some time" and that is not a strong timebridge. It's something I've experienced and I heard it too, so lately I've been seeding early on that I love karaoke. I drop that thread, and just before I #close I tell them we're going to sing karaoke and then #close. Works like a charm so far. Ever since I start it seeding and setting timebridges my flake ratio has gone down (I actually mean getting girls on the phone). Nice....
The second #close was with a lonewolf shopping in this clothing store. I wasn't attracted to her at all, but just because she was asian I had to open her (btw, I love asians like the first set
). I start grounding and running my routine stack without the sexual frames and she is intrigued. Again I seed the karaoke, drop the thread, re-engage karaoke and #close. I have a problem #closing sets when I'm not attracted to the girl at all, but I still do it for the sake of closing every set.
Then I see this hired gun standing at this heater and I open her. I start grounding again and we vibe for a bit. She immediatly starts telling me how we should hang out when I start talking about karaoke. I ignore her invitation and continue grounding, just to keep my frame. Since she was working, she was telling me that there's a camera watching her. I keep my distance and then #close standing 6ft away from her, looking as if I'm playing with my phone. Btw, she was actually really cute and that was also when I enjoyed talking to someone.
Later that night we all went to the club and D joined us. It was slow night for me, feeling sick and tired. I opened a few sets and start thinking that my opening sucks. I know it doesn't so I realize I'm not into state. I accept that and keep up my smile knowing that few months from now I'm a beast.
I got irritated when my sets went bad and I putted too much value on the girls that way. Sooo baddd... Then I cyclone in this group of girls and they digg it. I immediatly see a girl I'm attracted to and chode out by not dancing with her but her ugly friends. I later see them out and I then wait for that special girl to leave the dancefloor so I could #close her. I was standing next to the dancefloor choding and waiting for her. She then leaves and I go in and getting the "I have a BF" and I walk off thinking to myself, "OMG did I just do that? I'm such a chode." Normally I'm that guy that tells everyone to have that abundance mentality and "NEXT!" but that night I didn't. It was a great learning experience.
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Saturday
The same people of last night are at the club, but status66 joined us. The goal was to do a lot of dancefloor game. The cyclone is so money to penetrate those big girl groups on the dancefloor and it worked 3/3. I opened only two sets that night by myself and the rest was all dancefloor game. Status66 some his skills for dancefloor game and I was impressed how he kept plowing. Props for that.
I approached this lonewolf sitting alone, not attractive at all, just to practice my stack and to social proof myself so I could open the adjacent set with her. I find out that she is actually interesting and tease her by running sexual frames, framing that she is hitting on me and doing the "almost kiss" routine. She goes crazy everytime I release her state but since I wasn't attracted to her I just #closed her for the sake of it.
It was great going out with Jackett, King Kong and Status66. I haven't seen them in a while so it's always nice to see how they progressed. We gotta do more daygame together!
IMPORTANT REALIZATIONS
I do find physical attraction very important. If I'm not physically attracted to someone, I noticed my game is never really that good. I run game for the sake of it. When I look back at all my good sets, it was always when I was attracted to a girl. This came to me when I read sinn's blogpost
here. I noticed I open a lot sets when they seem easy, because the girl is not that hot so I automatically assume I have higher value than her. I hardly hesitate when I see an non-attractive girl, but when I do see a 8.5+ then start getting AA and think that my value is not up to par with hers. I really need to start approaching really hot girls because you need better and little bit different game for that, and get rid of my limiting belief that really hot girls are higher value than me.
For example, I came to realize that I almost never neg. Why? Well the girls I most of the time approach aren't really that hot. Negging them is like insulting them, so I always tried to raise their value. So to keep it simple, I don't know how to neg properly.
I've been going a lot to the same venue where the girls aren't really physically attractive to me. The venue filtering talk at the superconference made me realize what kind of girl I want and where to find them. They're not at the venues where I go so I need to fix this. I will still go to those venues once a while, but I realized most girls I'm attracted to are found during the day, not at the clubs. Good thing I'm working on my daygame. I will post soon why my ideal girl is like and where I'm likely to find her.
Me and Rince were talking about identity and I realized that I don't know what my identity is. How am I supposed to connect with someone else (girl or guy) when I don't know myself that very well. Also in terms of appearance (fashion, grooming) I don't know what I want to convey. Just look at my wardrobe and you'll see that I have a wide range of outfits all conveying different identities. So the next couple of months I'll try to figure out who I am.
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