It is the character you are demonstrating. You are are vindictive and willing to hurt this girl who has simply done the exact same thing you have done. You have no sense of justice or right action.
Point?
I'm assuming you haven't told her how much you've cheated on her while abroad. If she knew, how would she feel about your dick being inside of some other girl?
Why don't you just drop it? It will be healthy and a good start to a new, less narcissistic life. You obviously want this girl because you're a control freak and you can't stand that this girl could actually reject you.

There is nothing healthy about your desire to get back at this girl at all. Besides, you losing her was your fault, not hers.

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Lo' there do I see My Father.
Lo' there do I see the line of My People, back to the beginning.
Lo' they do call to me, they bid me take my place among them.
in the Halls of Valhalla, where the brave may live forever.

I don't instill a fucking fear of loss within girls. I don't try to CONTROL other people. You know why? I actually love women. I'm not bitter. I do not send negative feelings about women out to the universe. I send positive feelings of compassion and love for women.

I understand a woman's mind, their hows and whys, their fears and frustrations, their joys and sorrows. When I'm fucking them I'm actually sharing a great, positive experience with them, not conquering them with my ego.

If I'm rejected, I'm not a pussy about it. I man up and shrug it off with a strong abundance mentality to guide my frame of reality. I'll still love women no matter what, and I'd never do anything to intentionally harm them or take away their options, their freedom, their will, their humanity.

It may be hard to believe, but there's a difference between being a pickup artist and a manipulative bastard.

May compassion guide you through this, because it can give you all the right answers in this situation.

thank you.

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I'm addicted to facing my fears.

There is obviously something fundamentally wrong with your relationship.

My guess - immaturity.

You cheated, she cheated, and neither of you can get over yourselves.

Take this as a sign that this relationship is toxic and MOVE ON.

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-That's my two cents...

You can install the fear of loss through NLP but I wouldnt go that far lol

im taking the advice that this is not worth my energy and worth stressing out over. its posion to my brain, i get worked over nothing and i have plenty of other girls that would appreciate me.

so no nlp, no instilling fear, or vengance. just a simple permanent freeze out to move on.

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I'm addicted to facing my fears.

Good work man. Sorry I was a bit hard on you. I just can't stand vindictive people, especially when you were clearly in the wrong. Glad to see you prove me wrong though.

Don't even consider this a freeze out though. She's out of your life. She can do what she wants and you do what you want.

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Lo' there do I see My Father.
Lo' there do I see the line of My People, back to the beginning.
Lo' they do call to me, they bid me take my place among them.
in the Halls of Valhalla, where the brave may live forever.

It's really better that way anyway. Plenty of other girls. You're a man with options. Just don't get yourself stuck in a relationship when you're clearly not ready to make a commitment.

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-That's my two cents...

Don't me wrong man I can't stand random chode sex and fuck buddies, sex just sucks when you dont have intense feelings for me, IMO at least. Wearing a condom while having sex feels like fucking a sandbag.

I'm all for commitment, it's just finding someone compatible. As for an update, she keeps leaving voicemails and emails saying she didn't mean it, she's depressed, that she won't do it again. Knowing her she will, and I will too. She goes to Duke for fucks sake. It's hard ignoring her, I still think about her but I'm just letting it go for good, had sex again last night, didn't help at all. I really need to work on my LTR game.

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I'm addicted to facing my fears.