| First off let me tell you that this is not another sad oneitis post. I haven't been posting in forums long but already I am sick of the near same question coming up again and again. (Apologies to any posters of said messages).
To fill you in very briefly on the girl I am trying this theory out on, I have known her for around 7 months, we met at university, I see her 3-4 times a week (some social, some at uni). I definetly don't have oneitis, there are plenty of girls in my life at the moment (well, enough. lol). I didn't game this girl immedietly because I was coming out of a heavy relationship when I met her, etc, etc. Anyway, now I'd love to have something more than friendship and this is how I will go about it:
When you are gaming a girl you have just met you may build comfort by moving from one place to another, i.e. club, to bar, to restaurant, whatever, thus making her feel you have known eachother for longer than you have and building comfort. Also you are aiming to build emotional momentum. In the case of someone who has 'missed' his chance and is now a friend I would propose you ought to do the opposite. You need to slowly reduce the friendship back to what it might have been in its early stages. To do this I will use several techniques:
(1) I will only see the girl at uni.
(2) I will only see her in academic settings.
(3) Whenever she wants to socialise I will already have plans (preferably a date).
(4) Phone calls should not last more than 5 minutes.
By doing these four things I hope to achieve two things. Firstly, the girl should begin to feel less comfortable around me and feel our friendship is not as close as it used to be. Secondly, she should be jealous of other girls who are hogging my time. These two thoughts should grow in her mind and she will start to view our relationship differently.
Once I have done this for a month or so, I will invite her out to socialise. Remember this should be the first time we have socialised for a couple of months. I will arrange to meet her just one on one, and I will pick something that is fairly date like (picnic, salsa, concert, etc). During this meeting I will run game on her. I will use routines to build a sense of fun, which she will predisposed to as she hasn't seen me for a while. I will fill her in on what has been happening in my life to make her feel sorry she missed it, also being careful to throw in plenty of DHV stories including other women (but at no point implying the other girls were GFs, etc). During this meeting it is important that she doesn't feel as though I am hitting on her, or that I am trying to escalate this relationship. When you say goodbye give her a hug, but put both arms round her waist, this makes the hug more sensual if done correctly, but not overtly flurtacious. Doing this hopefully will leave her a little turned on as she has not had any hugs from you in a long while and this was a bit different anyway. Also if you are able to have her lean in to you she will more likely brush her breasts on you, which will leave them feeling a slight sensation which hopfully her brain will pick up on and attribute to attraction rather than physiology.
Now you just leave her. If she leaves you feeling a little aroused she will probably wonder why, and will think about you in the context of being aroused. She will then think back over the meeting and think what fun it was and how you should do it more often. Piecing this two bits of information togther = Slight arousal + really fun day = Do I fancy him? She will dissmiss this thought in her own head but slowly it will grow.
I would now ignore her for around two weeks. If she calls continue to use the max. five minute rule, and do not agree to any more meetings. After two weeks call her and suggest meeting in about a week (gives her time to think, anticipate, etc). Again, pick a date like place to meet for a one on one. Remember, this time she will already have the slight sense that she might fancy you and will be testing it out. This time run game again, but focus more on NLP, and also be intune with emotions around you. For example, if at salsa - passionate points in the dance, concert - dramatic music, etc. When this points occur get some KINO in. She will already be emotionally aroused, if you then touch her, she will associate you further with arousal. Do this a couple of times to anchor the feeling and after this you will be able to touch her in any reasonable situation and cause an arousal response. Again, nice hug at end. And out.
Again leave it for around two weeks, when she gets in touch begin to imply that there is another girl in your life who you quite like. Now, invite her round to your house. Cook her dinner, and get a movie. Cuddle up on the sofa, and with her emotions towards you severley scrambled and thinking she needs to stake her claim on you the rest should be easy. You don't have to push too far that night but make sure you kiss-close at least, and the job is done!
So what does anybody think? I have worked this out based on previous experiences and looking at how I approached situations where similar things happened. I think the theory of this idea seems pretty sound, but I am yet to field test right through. (As you can appreciate it takes several months!!)
Opinions, improvements, criticisms, questions, any thoughts really....
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