Have you ever done this: swapped quite a few emails with some girl on a dating site, eventually swapped phone numbers, then met up and you didn’t really click?

I’ve done this a few times! I realize now it’s best to keep calls short and to arrange to meet up pretty quickly, because until you meet up you won’t know whether you like her or not! You can’t tell from a photo or her voice! I’ve mad this mistake quite a few times! It’s best to meet up as soon as possible and take it from there rather spending hours and hours sending emails and making calls. Sending emails and making calls may sound romantic, but it can lead absolutely no-where… like not getting laid!

So my tip is cut-to-the-chase: meet up ASAP instead wasting time on emails and phone calls!

yeah thats really true, also time is very valuable, the time forgone with that girl emailing back and forth could have gone into someone else. Also in regard to photos and stuff, these days you can make any chick look like cameron electra with photoshop lol.

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Ok but if Im sarging online I dont just stop after the first girl, I keep going, looking for more intresting people IN ADDITION to the one who is responding to my emails, so the amount of time being used to talk to one shouldnt be a factor, because Im also getting to know 19 others, and then another 10 in real life.
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and I like the advice to keep conversations and emails short. But the only problem with this is that you have to go from A1 - C2 online and on the phone and its really hard to build attraction and comfort & trust in short 10 - 15 minute convos filled with stories that DHV. Plus you should be able to tell within the first few minutes of building rapport if this is someone worthy of your time, and wether or not you will let them have the chance to get to know you.

Do what I do, just plan a party and make all youre online projects show up,

They fight like crazy for youre attention and every one wants to be the one who sleeps with you! and if there is like 10 girls, talk about social proof!

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yes i know this story..

but when the girl send you more than one picture the risk of meet a ugly girl decrease.. i met one what on her photo (it was she!!) was really nice and after she was quiet beasty...

yes the best online pikup i made i met the girl 3 days after chat with her..
but i endet as "good friend" of her... dont worry i'm also happy about that.. but it is not the destination of a pua...

I am a myspace whore what you need to do is try and get the number as quickly as possible be extremely fun and funny on the phone (tell her you dont wanna talk alot on the phone cuz you dont wanna run out of stuff to say on the date, unless you wanna talk I dont like talking on the phone) then try and get them to your house if they wont then have them drive to your house before you go out but you drive then you have to go back to your house at end of the night can throw in the nightcap thing. I like to invite tem in to meet my dog at the beginning then at the end say are you gonna say goodnite to my dog or be rude. If they come its a done deal

My problem on myspace is I just can't build enough comfort to setup a meet irl. The emails go back and forth, numbers exchange. I only call to set something up then majority of the time its cancelled last min. How do you build comfort thru emails? Lemme pick your brain.

Part of the key to building comfort online is through teasing and the DHV story. Don't use online e-mail exchanges to ask a million questions about her. This does nothing to build comfort or attraction, and you are losing conversation topics for the eventual date. Instead, use DHV stories and teasing in order to build comfort. Treat her like an old friend or a bratty sister, continue this mentality during the phone conversation, THEN treat her like a date once you actually see her. Examples of this in action:

Once I learn the HB's name, I'll begin the second e-mail with this line (say her name is Allison):

Alli,

I'm just letting you know that I'll be calling you Ali from now as that last "son" is just too much for me to type. I'm a busy man with things to do...

This works for any girls name, just about, and it already makes you cock-funny, gives her a nickname (comfort), and DHVs.

Another great thing to do is role-play. This is an ESPECIALLY powerful comfort building tool that Durden likes to employ and he's definitely right. Chicks eat it up.

Remember, when you talk on the phone, there are a few things to remember to keep her from flaking:

1) Keep it short (15 minutes max).
2) Make sure your voice has higher energy than hers during the conversation (sound fun and exciting)
3) Know exactly where you want to go on the first date before you call. Girls like to be told all of this, dating is not a democracy. Even the most independent of girls LOVE men who take control of the date so you can sit back and relax. Also, take her to a place you can easily bounce from.
4) Keep an air of mystery about you. Never give her a straight answer. Maybe tell her you have a surprise for her or something like that (you can figure out the surprise later). All of this is meant to be enticing and to keep her from flaking.

Any more questions, just ask. I used to depend solely on online dating and did very well with it. I've been on atleast 50 dates over a 2 year span . Most didn't go well (I didn't like the girl)...and thats the final lesson. Never put too much stock into anything online until you meet face to face. Everything is meaningless until you meet. By now, even if I'm going out with an HB 10 on a first date from online I'm not nervous AT ALL since I expect nothing.

-Esperanto

Thanks alot for this advice I'm going through this right now and this really helps!

Esperanto:

Yes! Online dating! What service do you use and how do you get started? My space, or an actual dating service?

I just started gaming (uh, "pick-up" gaming not gambling gaming, alhtough if you think about it...ah, I digress...) in the "land of the real" but this online type situation seems full of possibilities if you are to be beleived (i do). Thanks for the insight and please let me know how some mid-20's working stiff can get in on this recent socio-techno rollercoaster.

real Harasho,

pow

I agree with what the first dude bra said.


J

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Do I know you Spike? LOL, you sound just like my wing.

Haha, does the online thing a lot. He ends up with these fat or semi UGLY women... lol

Online game is best done if you have some time to spare.

In my own opinion, I really don't think it's a big deal. A couple of emails. Make it enjoyable for yourself, like discovering things about the other sex, her inner most desires etc. Women online are way too comfortable about this. You can in person than profit off of this, though if she's ugly it doesn't help a whole lot.

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Some great stuff in this thread for online sarging.

But yea, I have just joined a dating site to get laid as I am just learning game right now and I need instant sex.

Till you have met them in real life, none of it means anything.

I ussually do the mistaken identity on myspace and works most of the time. Just like you would in person.
I have yet to not receive a responce back. But I have met alot of "internet" women and most of them have some kind of baggage going on that makes me say sarging at social events,ect is the best bet overall.
But I definatly agree with the short email/phone and meet asap otherwise dont waste your time.

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"meet up quick" ill keep this in mind, but im assuming you would have to build up some comfort.