It’s been a long time coming, so here’s the heads up on the brand-new, online PUA training and sister site to this forum: PUALife.com

The purpose of PUALife.com is simple: take rAFCS and help them systematically improve their pick-up/seduction skills until they consider themselves reasonably good PUAs.

This will be achieved via 3 modular-ecourses (with daily drills), 4 independent forums, integrated online-chat facility, weekly webinars, one-on-ones and small group chats. And, most importantly, there will be continued support and motivation from moderators/mentors.

Applications will be limited.

To celebrate the launch of the site I’m SPAM 10 life-time passes. The first phase of PUALife is about smashing AA, phases 2 and 3 (inner and outer game) will be launched in late July.

If you’re struggling with approach anxiety and would like a free, life-time pass to PUALife, tell me about you AA experiences (the more detail the better) in this thread. The best ten get free passes!

Brad, this is great news for me. AA is actually thr meain reason I joined this forum . I am a rAFC, hoping to become a PUA shortly.

But AA is a serious obstable to me. I cant really explain it.. buy maybe this anecdote will.

2 weeks ago I was in the pub with some friends, I made EC with a B, she was a... maybe a 5+ or a 6.

She was ok. I felt good and went for it, had a few opening sets in mind, went C&F and ended up scoring that same night.

I was feeling good about myself. Next night I went to the same place. I saw a HB (9+), for a second I thought I could pull the same deal I had pulled the night before. I made EC, and I was about to get up and walk up to her, but then something happened. I was overwhelmed by a paralyzing sensation. Every bit of me felt that I had NO chance. I just sat there. She smelled my fear, smiled and thought I was a loser. I swear I could read her thoughts, like in those comic cartoons. I swear she was thinking that I was a fucking idiot with no balls to approach her.

I felt so bad about myself I cannot even begin to explain it.

Why the hell does AA strike stronger with HBs?

Also, I dont mean to brag about my earlier succes with the other girl. She was a 5+ or a 6. Theres obviously something inside of me that prevents me from thinking that going after anything beyond that is impossible. I know its all in my brain but I cant help it.

Also, it was the first time I overcame AA, even with a 5+. And I still had the feeling that everything happened because it was a special night, I was feeling better than usual, the mood was right.

But I think I would have a hard time playing it like that again.

In short, AA is limiting my chances so bad that I want to punch somebody in the face. Only that would do no good, I would have to punch myself, becaise its no one elses fault..

I hope this heart felt testimony about how my own AA is screwing up with me is enough to make you realize that I deserve one of the free spots you are offering. If I dont get it, dont worry, I thank you anyways for the chance and Ill sure will be in the course one way or another. Fuck it I spend more time paying for date dinners when I know I shouldnt even do that. So I know in the end I will end up saving money.

Also, I like to know that Ill be in ONE place where sooner or later all my pua training needs will be covered. So next courses launching in july? will AA students get a discount for those??

Kudos bro - thanks for sharing this enlightning information, maybe u dont know it but u re changing my life.

AA is definetively my biggest problem both as of now, and when I first got into the game. It's not so much starting a conversation. When I get introduced to a girl by a friend, or when I walk up to a friend when he is with an HB, I can manage ok. But going up to a stranger, especially an HB... well, sometimes (usually) it's incredibly hard to "force" myself to do it.

Take this one girl (kinda my oneitis at one point, but right now I couldn't really care less). She opened a conversation with me on a social site (like facebook, only it's smaller and limited to my nation). We started talking, everything was going natural, and I felt like we were hitting it off.

She started at my school short time after, and that's when things stopped. We don't really have that many common friends in my school (I go to a different line of education), and I hardly ever could make myself go up to her and start talking when she was around her buddys. It felt... awkward, really. And I never said hello first when se walked by me, I waited for her to say it first. When alone it would be ok in the beginning, but she got really freaked out by my bizarre "freeze-out" in short time. She even got annoyed when I talked to her online, which I can really understand. I came off like a real wuzz, who could only muster the courage to speak with her in conditions like that.

So she totally blocked me out, too. And now we never greet eachother in school, we just exhange awkward glances now and than. Great girl, I know for a fact, and I really hope I can work my way through this issue, so that I don't lose my chance with a lot more girls like that.

-> First time I've shared this story with anyone I think... felt good getting it out, even though I'm over her by now.

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It’s the same with me. I only approach a few time a week in bars and clubs, then I really, really struggle. Its like half hearted approaches so no wonder I get know where.

I have not got any day game at all, I just can’t seem to approach and speak to women. Sometimes the thought of thinking about it is so overwhelming I just give up there and then. My friends have similar problems, though not as bad as mine.

I know the solution for me is not just forcing myself again and again, my problem is deeper than that.

I look forward to hearing more about your online training program.

Sylo

Well... I believe that I have generally broken my AA. Its more the fact that I'm oblivious to a lot of social norms. I just have no reasons to be afraid. The point is that AA does happen to me on occasion, but I usually plow through it. Now the fact that I get AA freaks me out more than the AA. It actually stopped me from approaching a particular girl that resembled a much more attractive version of a celebrity. I had everything come to me in an instant... my opening and a great convo starter, all of which were made up then and there. (I wrote them down later) But I got that twitch in my stomach and that freaked me out enough for me to stop and actually think and consider the concept of AA... and a great opportunity literally walked by me as I was in thought and fear.

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I have serious issue of AA, I cant approach girls unless Im absolutely buzzed, and thats pretty much holding me back, I think it comes from the fact several years ago I was overweight, since then I lost weight and put muscle (5 years into gym, 4 into martial arts), but I think somewhere in my unconscious mind Im afraid what X might say when I approach and what will I do after the first phase of saying "Hi", will she ignore me? blow me off? all kinds of demotivational ideas come to head.

I personally think that after the first phase of approaching Im doing fine, since I got pretty solid sense of humor and aura of confidence (around people who I know in Enviorment Im familiar with..)

Thats why I would like to try your online PUA Program - because you cant know what will be the thing that will give you salvation

cheers, nofear, currently suffering from one-itis!

Well, first off I think this online training will be a HUGE success. This is the only forum site I know that will offer one-on-one assistance with AFCs... worse, is rAFC.

Having just graduated college and starting my career in journalism, I have no problem interviewing HB 8, 9 or even 10s. The only catch is, it has to be work related. Throw me in a social circle, and I have nothing to say. Especially around HBs that I don't know...

But don't take my word for it - Rye Lee, Dr Zig, even Kino all realize this situation as I took the Miami Workshop with them over spring break.

In 72 hrs, I opened up 6 sets. Total.
Rye Lee said, "D, give me $100. For every set you open, I give you $10." Do the math. My AA was so strong, I would have rather give away $40, than to open sets I didn't know - with out a purpose.

I understand how it all works, by watching Rye and Kino and Zig open set after set and I see the results & I know its not a faux. Which makes it a little more difficult.

Phil Jackson can understand the pick & roll on a clipboard, but that doesn't mean he knows when to make that bounce pass.

Thanks for the honest responses guys, you are all in! I'll contact you with your login details when pualife.com launches, sometime this week.

Wow, this sounds like a perfect opportunity for anyone that needs help with their game, especially the inner part of the game where when you are held back because AA overtakes you so badly!

That's one of my main problems all around. I'm a pretty fun guy that can open sets if I only intend people to be friends. Once I start thinking about the person sexually, I just end up obliterating myself and looking like a loser. My identity is strong but my lack of confidence and shyness still shines through to overtake me and I hate that people can smell it.

So when does everything start again so I can sign up?

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I was considering not posting in here because, to be honest, I might not be one of the people that really needs this. I consider myself a RAFC, having made a massive switch in my personality and lifestyle about 6 months ago. I'm moving slowly, but at the some time, changing a lot about myself, developing all the aspects of my life as much as I can. I notices an oppourtunity to change, so I took it, and I'm loving who I am now because of it.
I'm in university, and my game generally extends to day gaming everyone, giving out a good vibe and surrounding myself with girls and cool people. I have made my own social circle and have intergrated myself into others. I'm now developing routines and DHV's to extend my game and to generally make myself more entertaining. I haven't really moved into night game yet for a few reasons, but I'll get there eventually.

My problem is that I'm still not able to move in for a reliable k-close. I never 'feel' that moment if right, and as such, never go for it. I have a whole lot of this mindset, a good head for DHV's and openers etc, I can talk comfortably and am doing a great job of intergrating this all and becoming interesting and attractive, but It's taking me longer than I would have though to move past this bump.

I have no doubt that in time it wont be a problem, and I feel now that I can move on in my life, and my life as a PUA more confidently and smoothly becausenow, I get how it works.

As I said, I might not be the best person to give this to, there are others that need far more help than I do, but I thought I'd throw this out there.

AA is a huge problem for me right now. I have like the perfect routines and openers ready in my head but I just can't physically bring my body there to approach. Sometimes when I'd finally get the nerves to approach, the set would already be walking away or surrounded by other guys.
There was this one time at a club, where a 2 set of HB 9 and 10s were just standing there alone, and I had about 5 min before anyone went up and talked to the, It turned out they were really friendly and then they were just surrounded by guys after. I should have been that guy and if I can crush my AA, I will definitely get there and be the guy that gets the success.

So thanks guys for considering me

Wow, the site sounds really cool. I'll look forward to it!

Regarding AA... this used to be a huge problem for me. I would see a set and always think, "What should I say? How should I say it?" and no matter how hard I tried I would overthink things and end up getting blown out. Then something strange happened. I had screwed up a set and practically gotten blown out, but instead of backing away I just figured "fuck it... I'm here tonight to have fun" and my abilities suddenly skyrocketed. The set I had basically already blown I recovered and ended up k-closing the cute blonde.

Furthermore, I highly recommend anchoring positive states. There are many ways to do this. I have an anchor I reinforce every time I meditate so it is very powerful. I also have a song that I anchor to because it puts me in that 'in the zone' state. Just yesterday actually I listened to the song on repeat for about an hour while visualizing various sets that would get me nervous. By visualizing along with the audio anchor it was hard to even feel nervous and the results in field are very noticeable.

I am by no means a PUA, but I believe that I am well on my way.

PS - True story of what not to say when opening. I saw a 2 set from a distance standing outside a building. I figured they were smoking, so I approached them with, "Hey, can I bum a smoke?" Well... it turned out to be a mother and daughter and the mother grabbed my arm and practically forced me to keep walking. LOL What makes it even funnier is that I don't smoke and would have refused it if they had given me one.

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Hmm.. This could be worth checking out Still some room left in there?

hey brad,
PUALife.com sounds like an awesome idea.

If you’re struggling with approach anxiety and would like a free, life-time pass to PUALife, tell me about you AA experiences (the more detail the better) in this thread. The best ten get free passes!

I recently read, "The Game" and other ebooks on PUA. I am a complete newb at this and would really love a chance to develop my game through PUALife.com.

Approach Anxiety has always been a big issue for me. Although i don't consider myself to by ugly, i have always been self conscious about my body. I went through a rapid growth spurt in about gr 8, and have some stretch marks on my chest around my armpits. I also consider myself too skinny for my height. I think this is one of the reasons for my Approach anxiety.

I have always been really petrified to talk to girls. Before, if i saw a pretty girl i would avoid eye contact and pretend that she wasnt even there. If i had to talk to a girl it would be really awkward and unnatural.

After reading into the game i have realized that overcoming AA is the biggest barrier and the first step into changing my lifestyle. Michael Jordan once said, " You miss 100% of the shots you don't take." or something like that. And i have come to the sad realization that i have not taken enough shots in my life. I am ready to overcome approach anxiety and i am ready to rid myself of AFC status.

I think that PUAlife is exactly what i need to help me get my foot in the door. Aso, being a starving student i think that i am especially worthy of a free membership.

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If you're prepared to put some effort in and work with the mods/mentors, you'll succeed. No doubt about that!

Ok, I'm feeling generous, you're in!