| All good tips. Having been an actor most of my life, I can honestly say, never underestimate the importance of a good entrance. If first impressions are key, then that first entrance is everything. In theater, they always say your first entrance should be your biggest, because you don't get a second chance to establish that first impression.
A very good friend of mine who passed away last year had a hell of a lot of social proof and was always greeted by many people when he entered any establishment, and one of the reasons he seemed so important was that whenever he walked into a place, he would stop just inside the door, taking up the entire frame, and coolly survey the entire room before starting in toward a seat. It wasn't something anyone ever really thought about, but it made unconsciously made a big impression on everyone who knew him. I'm a big people-watcher, and one day I noticed it and asked him why he always paused upon entry. An old-school actor, without hesitation, he replied, "I'm waiting for applause." I dug it. Can you imagine being a George Clooney or a Sean Connery or a Paul Newman, some sort of icon whose mere presence stirs an intense excitement, someone who inspires people to burst into cheers just by showing his face? Next time you enter a room, imagine an audience applauding just because they're so fucking psyched to have you there, psyched by all the potential that's been added just by having you in the room. You'd be surprised how encouraging that can be.
Me, I've always been a little on the dramatic side, and I like to make big entrances. One thing I can always say for myself, whether or not people are glad I'm there, I am always noticed when I walk into a room. I'm a lean, sleekly built guy, tall and thin, but I come into a room like gangbusters, bigger than life. First off, I'm usually very well dressed and I walk like I own things, and that in itself turns a lot of heads because I look like I'm important. Given the circles in which I travel, usually I know other people who are already wherever I'm arriving, so I'm warmly greeted and spend my first few minutes making the rounds. At most of the bars and restaurants where I hang, all the staffers know me, so they pass by greeting as well.
Whenever I walk into a place, I'm either flashing a wicked little grin or, like Castnett said, looking just above the common eye line with a cooler-than-ice expression, if I feel like being less approachable for some reason. If I'm with another person or a group of people, I'm laughing or am clearly heard saying something very funny upon entry.
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