I got some great advice on approaching a HB10 and I ddin't go through with it. I couldn't get up the nerve. I don't have enough practice approaching women. All my friends are married and have children to go home to. There are no wings in my circle of friends. What now?

I don't know how serious your approach anxiety is but what I normally do is get guys to approach 5 to 10 women, and ask them something simple like what time it is, or for directions somewhere. There's no pressure on you to do anything, and it will get you used to approaching and talking to women. Then, once you can do that without feeling butterflies in your stomach, work your way upwards into longer conversations.

So, instead of just asking the time and moving on, say something nice to make her smile. Tell her she's cool or comment on how you can't believe you left without your watch today, and you feel naked without it. It can be whatever you want, as long as you start building conversations up bit by bit until you start having short conversations with women. Once you start seeing how nicely they react to you, their smiles, and maybe even flirting a little with you, your confidence will start to grow and you'll be thinking to yourself that there's nothing to it.

Go out today or tomorrow, get comfortable approaching, build up a little with each interaction, and after a while you'll start having short conversations with everyone you talk to. If she's really friendly, ask her what she's up to today and share with her what you're doing in town (besides picking up girls). The idea of this is not only to get you comfortable and relaxed around women, but also so that you get bored of the repetition and you will force yourself to open up more and try new things as you go along. Don't set your goals too high because you'll cloud your mind, so don't try for numbers or anything until you feel up to it. For now, just focus on initiating conversations until you can do it without thinking.

Once guys get used to doing this, a common problem I see is that they feel confident approaching but they can't close properly. The anxiety comes back once they decide they want to try for a number and it gets the better of them, and they go back to square one... I can't really talk to you in person and there's only so much motivation a bunch of text can give you, so you'll have to cross that bridge once you get to it. A simple trick is to think back to the last woman you had sex with, or kissed passionately... I mean really put yourself in that moment and feel everything just drift away, you're in the moment and nothing else matters. Look at the woman you're approching and envision you and her together, experiencing those feelings together. If that doesn't motivate you to get what you want from her, I'll eat my hat.