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Wait, wait, wait...it's not pickup artist style to just sincerly ask the girl out or something. I wanted to use mystery or styles methods, but I just don't know appropriate opener for bank situation. I need tease/compliment her quickly, be playful, flirting, not just ask "HI! My name is Jim, let's go and have a coffee" - LAME. I want to play this real smooth, like a real pickup artist does.
Firstly it's not asking, it's suggesting. But alright, you want to be a pickup artist. It's time for a reality check... first of all there is more than one proven method and to assume that one method in particular is ideal for any given situation is ludicrous. And secondly, listening to advice from people who have years of experience is usually a good idea.
Allow me to lay out the three attraction stages according to the mystery method:
A1 - Open: The man approaches a set, runs an opener, and reaches the social hook point. You can't exactly apply a social hook point to someone you're dealing with in what is essentially a business transaction. But, for your sake, let's just assume that you've reached the hook point automatically by talking to her. Moving on...
A2 - Female to male interest: The man demonstrates higher value, whilst simultaneously showing disinterest in the target. She responds by giving indicators of interest. From my extensive past experience with the M3 model this is most commonly achieved through the likes of telling DHV stories or talking about how busy your day has been, the latter being more suitable for the bank environment. So, you can DHV no problem. Great! You should, however, note that this entire model is designed primarily for application with groups or mixed sets, based on the premise that women of beauty are rarely found alone. With this in mind, you're talking one on one with the teller so you can't divide your attention elsewhere without looking like you're just staring around you. The whole showing disinterest thing isn't really applicable to this scenario so at the moment all you'll have done is display higher value. But, that's good enough and it's all you need to spark a little attraction so I have no real issues with that. So, what about A3?
A3 - Male to female interest: The man baits the woman to become more invested in the interaction, and then he rewards her efforts with indicators of interest. May I remind you that you're in the fucking bank. She is trying to hurry things along to get to the next person in the queue before people end up queuing from outside. Banks are surprisingly high pressure environments and you'll be very lucky to be standing there alone for long. After you display higher value to her, which she probably won't be paying attention to because all people ever talk to her about is how their day is going, how are you going to step that up to getting her number without appearing somewhat direct? The short answer is, you can't. The M3 model is in no way practical for this kind of scenario because you simply don't have time to stand around and build proper attraction, so your only choice is to assume some level of attraction exists already and be direct.
Looking at your edits, paying her a compliment about her hair is automatically jumping into A3, then talking about your sense of style is A2... so you're going backwards. Also, talking about how good your sense of style is may come off as arrogant so you might wanna be careful with that.