me and my friend went to the mall and walked around. we saw like 50 hot women and i couldn't go up to any of them and i was just wondering does anyone have any tips for giving me more confidence.

There are loads of posts on the forum about approach anxiety. I have to admit, it's still my biggest problem as far as game is concerned. Once I approach I'm okay, but I've missed plenty of opportunities because of AA.

Discreetly pinch yourself and be in conversation before the pain wears off.

There aren't any tips, but I bet if you'd have approached the first set that day then you'd have spoken to almost all of them.

Personally I found that just going up and starting a conversation was the hardest thing to do, until I came across a little technique. What you need to do is just go up to as many girls as you can and ask them the time, it doesn't matter if you don't say anything to them, just ask for the time, then just treat every approach as if it were the same.

- SC

Well I went out with a sarging veteran..and he just told me

"Kid Grow Some Balls...Big Balls".

Ill never forget that

don't worry bro. we've all been there. try these:

1. Make believe your talking to a fat girl (imagine the fattest ugliest girl you know)

2. Think of a good question the night before and take a survey. Make sure it's the type of question to start a conversation.

- say these specifically:
- Hey I need a quick female perspective on something.
- IT WILL ONLY TAKE A MINUTE then I HAVE TO GO.

optional... or if she asks:
- I'm in a psychology class
- conducting a survey for a group project and this is my task for the group presentation.

- Next thing you know, you won't have to be doing the optional part =)

3. Warm up at the mall by negging the 6-8's. then move on to the 9-10's.

4. Day game at the mall is much different from night club game so remember this: "An object in motion, tends to stay in motion"

5. Bring a puppy if you have one.



- those, besides the puppy thing, helped me overcome AA

REMEMBER: 3 second rule. The longer you take, the more you will hesitate.

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"Let it flow"

- Andeezy

Just to add to this a little more, what I think we're attacking is the fear of approaching, and this thread is already full of very good information.

You need to act confident, until you start believing yourself. Practice this alone to begin with, just you and a mirror. Talk to yourself, anything that helps - talk clearly and confidently, like Tom Cruise would, or whoever works for you.

Ever seen the butterfly effect?
If you'd have spoken to the first set, you could be in bed with the hottest girl you saw all day RIGHT NOW.

Memorizing 1-2 opinion openers will help some with AA because you will at least have something u know works especially once u do it a few times it will greatly help AA.

Honestly though experience is the only thing that will help AA. There is no magic cure, theres no 1 liner we can give u that will give u inifnite confidence.

Understand that rejection is common and happens frequently and learn to not give a shit if u get rejected.

The ONLY thing I have seen to help with AA is if you get a group of you buddies and u force each other alternating turns on who has to approach who. Theres no way u can back down, everyone around u ahs gone up and either succeded or failed and then its ur turn and then pick a chick or u ipck someone so u gotta go up.

Anyways relax the good news is that AA will never go away though even with years of experience it will just decrease some but it will always be there. lol enjoy

i actually approached a girl for the first time last night using my new, but still a work in process, PUA skills. all you gotta do is go up to the hb's and just open.

once you've got their attention then all the AA dissipates in no time. just be cool and know what to open with.[/quote]

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Peace,

Love John

"The cure for one-itis, PUAs like to say, is to go out and have sex with a dozen other girls- and then see if this flower is still so special." Style

hey thanks guys now i have gone up and talk to 3 girls today

Excellent progress mate.

How did it go?