Thanks for taking the time to view my thread.

I am an introvert by nature. Society has given introverts a negative rep making them to be anti social nerds which is a total misconception. (If you unsure what an introvert is google it and you will learn a lot.) Extroverts seem to be the personality type for PUA’s. I can act like an extrovert but it takes a lot of work and I play the role just fine. It’s not the real me though and it will only last so long.

Questions I have

Can being an introvert play to any advantage in your game?

Should I hide this personality trait and suck it up or is this material not for me?

Does PUA material work on female extroverts?

Thanks guys

There is no attractive man who presents himself as an introvert; attractive men can keep a woman interested and entertained. No matter what technique you use you will never be able to make the introverted thing work for you. Attracting women is all about becoming an extrovert. I was an introvert of the highest calibur with aspergers in high school and

I will tell you YOU CAN TRUN YOURSELF IN TO ONE! If anyone tells you are have a pre-determined personality type it's bullshit; it's society programming that makes you antisocial or social. It's all about becoming comfortable in your own skin; introverts just need to learn social skills and get their self-esteem issues worked out so that they are happy and comfortable talking with anyone they meet.

- Chris

In support of c_n12, yes you can change. I used to be extremely introverted yet a recent personality profile listed me as extremely extrovert, literally, one extreme to the other.

Well by introvert i immediately don't think "anti social/shy/poor social skills" like you guys labeled. Introversion in my opinion has to do in how to attain stimulus and keep yourself from not being bored basically. Someone who is an extreme extrovert simply HAS to be around people for feedback or to have their thoughts provoked so they can THEN reflect on it. Taking into account they may be a more people person because they "connect" and take what other's say concerning their mind to a higher value.

An introvert makes me think of someone who is content reflecting on their internal dialogue. They may also enjoy external stimulus, a.k.a not sitting in utter silence.....say by reading a book....it sparks an idea...internet articles...the news. These are people who have a more in depth concern with themselves and may not be as easily influenced on their own well being. They trust their own instincts more.

That being said...i don't even know what i am myself haha. Everyone is both...but i guess my way of thinking/socializing is more so "introverted". Although i don't know if that personality type is sculpted by your environment or you're born with it...i don't think it matters at this point, you are what you are. I believe that you MUST be both and shouldn't consciously side with one or the other(caused by outside influence of how you should be). Although an introvert may say "well i am most at ease and happy when i'm home alone just thinking/reading/listening to music, therefore i should continue doing that".

That's all fine if that's ALL you care about....but fact is we want companionship/friends/conversation/laughing with other people/sex/etc...so your one method of "doing what feels best" is only filling certain "desires" in your life..but also neglecting other desires.

Now...this is common sense...in order to get your sex..your friends...PEOPLE into your life...you simply can't sit at home but MUST go out and interact. You cannot expect others to do the work for you as that's just lazy and unconfident.

In all honesty extreme extroverts are people you can go to a party with and bullshit about light topics and that's usually where it ends. Someone who is mainly introverted but atleast makes the attempt to hit up the parties/bars....can have a more fulfilling/enjoyable relationship as the simple act of conversation and thoughts can be all the entertainment you'd need.

Hope you get what i mean.

Introversion is not about being shy, cowardice, weak and antisocial. Introverts are generally more intelligent people who do not feel the need to impress, entertain and be with others. They are satisfied with themselves and are able to occupy themselves with enjoyability. Unfortunately, introversion (in the being satisfied with your own company) does not help PU. However, aspects of introversion like thinking for yourself first, untouchable self-confidence and selfishness can be positive. It's all about making do with what you have, and adapting to your natural weaknesses and making them your strengths.

Haha c12, the shit that comes out of your mouth sometimes amazes me. Everyone has deeply seeded personality traits and tendencies that stick with them for their life. You can alter your personality but you can never fully change it.

I am not saying that introverts > extraverts or vice versa- I am saying that everyone is different and a mixture of both is important. I would never get into a serious relationship with an extreme extravert- I would probably go crazy. At the same time, I like to push myself and break out of the shell that is so easy and comfortable to sit it. Similarly, an extravery may find it comforting to be with other people, but if put alone of a weekend they are uncomfortable (and I think being uncomfortable with yourself is just as bad as being uncomfortable with people).

I'm a introvert also, the thing is that i alreadyhave a strong inner game ... now its time for the butterfly to come out during the summer ... so all the ladies get a good image of how "fly" i am.

With all the new techniques and routines that pop up on this site one thing is ever lasting like the earth rotation around the sun ... WOMEN WILL ALWAYS DIG THE SMART GUY ... period lol so open up and share you insite .. it'll come handy after the openers and routines when you have to build rapport.

"With all the new techniques and routines that pop up on this site one thing is ever lasting like the earth rotation around the sun ... WOMEN WILL ALWAYS DIG THE SMART GUY ... period lol so open up and share you insite .. it'll come handy after the openers and routines when you have to build rapport."

In all honesty....in MY experience....girls don't like smart guys. Even though my experience has BEEN this, it still sounds wrong and stupid as i typed that out. BUT....

A lot of girls will give me the "not this again" if i ever turn philosophical or try and paint a somewhat intricate perspective on something that "should be" simple. Rolling eyes is among the favorite or verbally "there you go again".

I can't logically say it's just the kinda girls in my school...although it isn't a sophisticated school, i know not everyone can be blatantly dumb...so i don't get where the girls "that like smart guys" are located.

"(and I think being uncomfortable with yourself is just as bad as being uncomfortable with people)."

Cheers to that.

I can tell you that girls dig sophistication. Often a part of sophistication is intelligence.