Okay, so this HB 9.5 has a boyfriend, younger than me, who I know relatively well. The thing is, I can sense her attraction to me but I'm not sure there's anything I could do about it without a) Looking like an ass or b) Ruining relationships with other friends in my social group if it didn't work out.

Here's the signs that she gives me:

-Laughs and giggles at everything I say
-Touches me all the time
-We 'accidentally' touch/bump eachother all the time
-She's stated before that she's physically attracted to me
-She always asks for rides
-She asks for my help with literally all schoolwork


It's pretty obvious that she's in to me, but she's also into her boyfriend at the same time. I'm not sure how to overcome the obstacle of the little voice in the back of her head that would say 'I have a boyfriend right now, this can't happen' or something along the lines. I tried to find similar info in some of the sticky's with no luck.

Thanks.

i'm in a similar situation so i totally get what you're saying with "the voice in her head"
only difference for me is 1) neither her or bf are in my social circle and 2) i've already slept with her once
but now i want her for myself (one-itis perhaps?) so i want her to break up with the bf.
originally i was just gonna sit back and let it play out however it does, but if anyone has some tips to increase the chance of her breaking if off i'd like to hear it. and not the usual just be better than her bf, because i am, so that's not a problem. the problem is she is very loyal and we can't see each other much because of the situation.

Yeah, I wouldn't mind just hooking up with her without anyone knowing, but I also wouldn't care if people found out. Also, I guess I'm kind of scared of making a move, she denying me and people finding out- making me look like a complete idiot (not just a little healthy rejection).

Make her focus on the negative aspects of her relationship and constantly remind her of them, then talk about how much better you are etc. Dont ask her directly or say anything directly. Eg navigate the conversation towards her talking about her relationship so she tells you the bad stuff without asking. I did this before but remember that the BF will be pissed if he finds out you were the cause.

You have to ask yourself if the juice is worth the squeeze.
If you get her, and lose 10 friends, i dont think it'd be worth it.
There are plenty of fish in the sea, i'd just go fishing

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--Brad

I would agree with B Radd
It really depends on how close you are to Him...........
Cause if you get with her and date her, there is always the chance that he might try to get another one in for old times sake.......

The way I would lose 10 friends is by attempting and failing..I think I have to really feel this one out. I am not sure how to make her focus on the negative aspects of her relationship without it sounding like I'm trying to do that? Any suggestions? I guess it would have to be by subtle implication.

Thanks!

she's not into you, she's just flirting with you and givin you the signs of attraction so that she can get rides from you and get you to do her schoolwork. I see guys making this mistake all the time, if you do her schoolwork and giving her rides, she'll use you, all girls do this to get shit done for them and they can also use you to make their boyfriends jealous and believe that they're with another guy. If you haven't said anything that makes her giggle and she just giggles at everything you say, that's an instant sign of faking it. This isn't the movies for girls to be instantly attracted to you just by not doing anything. Everything you've said here is subjective, she could have also just said that she's physically attracted to you to see if you'd jump at the opportunity. Just play it kool, run game on her and keep away from doing shit for her until after you've banged her a few times. It's amazing what you'll find out about girls if you talk to a few friend girls. I have one right now and she's enlightened me so muc hand saved me so much time.