So guys i broke up with my gf of one year about a month ago, our anniversary would have been on this coming tuesday. We havent spoke in 2 weeks and our last talk was her telling me she wanted space, but when i asked her for closure she kept saying she wasnt sure what she wanted yet.
so here is my case now,

I have had pictures of her and me sitting in my room for a while now and something told me i should take them and just go and leave them in her mail box. I either think she will see them and get utterly pissed right off, or she will maybe get worried thinking ive moved on and MAYBE feel like crap (which is what i kind of want so maybe she will re think things over)

so do i put it in her mail box, or not?

Do not; I repeat: DO NOT take those pictures and leave them at her mailbox. All this is going to show her is that you have been thinking about her and are now trying to appeal to her like an AFC.

Make sure that if you are going to give her the pictures you do it in a direct way in which you can convey that you are not appealing to her by leaving them there but giving them back as a alpha gesture.

- Chris

how do i convey to her though in a direct way? i tried meeting up with her a couple weeks ago and it was a no go.

what is the best way to make this work when i cant see her?

she is leaving for a month in a week and a half, and i want to anchor something in her head so she will remember/think of it/us again

Trust me that last thing you want to do is put those pics in her mail box. Its shows her that she still has power over you, and you still love her. (its not your falt man we all get are harts broken from time to time) The best thing to do is not to talk to her especially on your anniversary.. Think about "cat string theory" by you caller her or talking to her your letting her have the string.. If you have a myspace/facebook use it to show her that your seeing or talking to other girls, and setup some jealousy traps. You may not win her back but doing it this way is your best bet.

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yeah that makes sense. I only ever considered putting them in her mail box in the hope to get her to think im moving on and just am getting rid of the pictures . Ive definitely been working the facebook-jealousy-trap though, couple girls and i drinking on the display pic always helps.

thanks guys for your input by the way

Guys, you have to bear in mind that this is a long term relationship, not a pick up. It's good for her to know you love her in a long term relationship.

I think people forget that not all the of the rules of sarging apply to long term relationships.

That's true Clancey, but I still feel its a bad idea to put them in her mail box. I feel it looks very beta, and I think being alpha is something that you should keep throughout sarging and during long term relationships. If you're alpha when you pick someone up and then a few months later you turn beta, she's going to notice this and her perception of you is going to change.

I agree with showing emotion after a break up, but following her around like a love sick puppy won't help at all. I had a girl in high school who I loved then and still do now. I was totally AFC then especially after we broke up. Looking back on it now, with all this new information I have, I see where I went wrong.

Anyway, my advice is to show her you miss her, but don't show her she's the only thing you have.

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In a way i feel i almost fell victim to one-itis, but i had a crush on this girl all through my high school years, finally got her and lost her.

i guess in trying to get back the alpha status, but how do i show i miss her without showing her shes the only thing? Wonder if anyone has some pointers to get a girl to rekindle the good thoughts we had and spent together, and get her to possibly miss me again?

The best thing you can do is move on. Your only setting your self up for a world of hurt

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Head First is right. I would say that trying to rekindle a lost relationship is just as hard as trying to get out of LJBF. If she broke up with you, it means she lost a lot of attraction for you otherwise you would still be together.

But some advice for this...How about trying the October Man Sequence. I don't know too much about this, but I heard its really powerful. The only thing I know is that you ask a girl to imagine what its like to be in love. This forces her to feel that feeling, and then you somehow connect it with you. Just a thought.

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How would i use the October man sequence on her? I feel i have moved on better then i was a couple weeks ago, but i still feel that its just not right, not being with her that is. basically if there is anything i could do/say to put a seed in her head on re kindling/thinking stuff over that would be pretty amazing

I really don't know much about October Man Sequnce. But I'm pretty sure you have to be together for it to work. If someone else know's more about this, feel free to chime in!

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mmm this is a hard one, 2 weeks and no phone call or text? thats abit harsh, something is up... Girls only want a 'break' for the following reasons:

There interested in another guy but she wants a break so she can spend a lil more time with him to see what he has to offer. or shes getting sick of you and your boring her, you need to spicen things up!! here are the 3 rules of girls.

1. They always look out for there own interest.
2. They always keep there options opened.
3. They put themselves 1st before any1
Girls can be quite selfish.

wtf? why would you give her pictures of the both of you..? you're in the pictures too, they are as much yours as they are hers. This is the most ridiculus thing I have ever read. You broke up with her and you're being a little bitch about it? I mean seriously.

Why not, and try and stay with me here because this might sound pretty intense. Call her!! and tell her you miss her and want to see her, even as a friend if thats alright by her. I mean, if you're worried about looking afc then dont do this, it only shows you care too much which makes you truly afc.

Suck it up and talk to her, be drect and be honest. thats the alpha thing to do, ffs.. why do you people care about appearences so much.

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